Complicated feelings towards breastfeeding

Just wondered if anyone was feeling in the same boat as me. Im very grateful that I have been able to bf for this long, and im sorry to those who couldn’t, but I am so ready to stop now

I feel really trapped, my baby will not take a bottle or cup regardless of the type, teat or temperature and it’s starting to really affect me mentally. I go to the groups and mums who have a baby at a similar age are all starting their successful transition now to bottles and formula. I feel a million miles from this

I’ve been feeling so resentful towards the advice we were given to not give a bottle until 8 weeks old to avoid nipple confusion, I probably would have preferred the refusal but we just wanted to do what we thought was best

I’m still 3 stone overweight and struggling with how I look but I can’t lose the weight. I’ve had issues with EDs before which doesn’t help matters

What can I do now? I really just feel so lost with it and I’m scared I’m not going to be able to stop 😢

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https://www.feedeatspeak.co.uk/blog/2020/6/10/help-my-breastfed-baby-wont-take-a-bottle
Would this info be helpful? She also has a course for breastfed babies that wont take a bottle or you could look at getting further support x

I just wanted to comment to say my little one completely refused a bottle for weeks. I had to take her (& my mum) on a hen do I had planned in for months just so she could be close by to breastfeed. It can feel so restricting and claustrophobic so I completely understand where you’re coming from! I was trying all sorts of different teats, bottles etc and was so worried I was giving her a bottle aversion. After about a month of refusing she just randomly started feeding again from one. I honestly just think none of the changes I was making were having any impact and it was all on her terms. Try to relax into it a bit, they will take to a bottle in time. It just might take some more perseverance. Try to offer it at least once a day, even just so they have the exposure to it. Really hope you can find a way through, it’s tough and your feelings about bf are really valid x

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