Not pregnancy related but how would you feel?

Only you can say what you are comfortable with, but at the end of the day if my husband did this to me whether I was pregnant or not... I personally would divorce him. It's a strict no go for me and a complete lack of respect and boundaries, I would absolutely not be comfortable with this in any way shape or form.

I think that completely takes the piss to be honest and you have every right to be upset and feeling the way you are feeling. Just so disrespectful, especially given how we are feeling at the moment which isn’t sexy or attractive like you say… plus you have a toddler at home which is so so tough when you’re heavily pregnant! I mean also the fact that you had to ask and it wasn’t something he said? So if you didn’t ask would he just of never said? Every relationship is different and different boundaries but I completely understand if you’re upset and I think you’re very valid for feeling the way you do!! Hope you’re okay ❤️

Thank you both for replying! You’re absolutely right that only I can decide how I feel about it but I think it was kind of treated like it’s no big deal and means nothing on his part, so I was then second guessing myself for feeling so upset by it and started to doubt if being mad about it is an overreaction. I haven’t fully expressed my feelings, which is not really like me at all! I guess even though I asked I was still shocked that he actually did it. And I do now wonder if he’d have just concealed it if I hadn’t asked and that then rings alarm bells in my head. But I also don’t know what good is going to come from me knowing now because I just feel more crap and insecure as a result. 😩

It's good that he was honest- but it would have hurt my feelings aswell. I completely understand it. It's so hard being heavily pregnant, feeling like this and also being so restricted and I can imagine it was hard him being away for a long period of time as it is. Sorry you're feeling like this, but it was defo insensitive on his part and your feelings are justified 💗

I’m glad that he was honest when you asked; and I wouldn’t be totally against a strip club if all his friends were going like you said but paying for a lap dance wouldn’t sit right with me. I’m not against porn but if my husband paid for porn or only fans then I’d have a problem with it. It’s a slippy slope especially since he works away

He would be gone. You deserve better.

Get rid of him the fucking pig.

I'd be absolutely raging at this! How disrespectful!

I know people have different boundaries, and if you were okay with it I wouldn’t say a thing cause it is your relationship and your standards. But you seem to be hurt by what happened which shows that you can’t take this. And let me tell you, I don’t know anyone who could take this either… Personally that man would’ve been long gone cause his behaviour is beyond shocking. How dare he…??? I would never accept someone leaving me for months while pregnant at home with a toddler. Missing his child’s birthday as well… I would never be ok with my husband going to the strip club…. And wow….. paying for a lap dance cause his friends were?? How old is he, to follow his friends in all they are doing? 16? This man is a grown married man… According to my standards, he is still living the single life which is definitely not compatible with a family life… Complete disrespect to you but again this is according to my standards. You are more than entitled to feel this way