Not pregnancy related but how would you feel?

So my husband goes away with work sometimes and he’s just been on what was a last minute work trip abroad for a few weeks. I’m obviously pregnant (34 weeks) at home with our two year old, he had to miss her birthday because of this trip so I’ve been really busy making that special and having lots of family over etc. doing it alone has been exhausting and I do find this aspect of his work hard to accept and sometimes feel a bit resentful about it when I have tough days. Bearing in mind he can be away from home for months on end sometimes.
Anyway, with work friends he’s obviously been going on nights out and I knew from him telling me that where they are there weren’t any clubs to end the night so everyone would end in the strip club/bar because it was open till early hours. He said nothing really was on display anyway and they just wanted somewhere to continue drinking. I’ve not had anything against strip clubs on the whole anyway so I felt fine about that.

Since he got home a couple of days ago, rightly or wrongly I got intrigued and asked if he’d had a lap dance. I know I shouldn’t have asked if I couldn’t handle the answer but yeah he said he did pay for one, it was one of the lads birthday and the four of them all had one, he didn’t want to be the only one not having one and waiting for the rest. So apparently they all had it in the same room but a girl each. I feel like because of the context of me being left at home to look after our child, heavily pregnant, taking care of everything alone, uncomfortable etc that I’m taking it harder than I normally would. I also feel more insecure in my self in terms of being sexually attractive to him which is natural when pregnant so this just made me feel even more vulnerable in that sense. The thought of another woman on him, him getting hard etc while I’m home in this situation. It feels like a betrayal, is it just pregnancy hormones making me feel worse or would you feel hurt by this? I don’t know how I want to be around him right now.

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Only you can say what you are comfortable with, but at the end of the day if my husband did this to me whether I was pregnant or not... I personally would divorce him. It's a strict no go for me and a complete lack of respect and boundaries, I would absolutely not be comfortable with this in any way shape or form.

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I think that completely takes the piss to be honest and you have every right to be upset and feeling the way you are feeling. Just so disrespectful, especially given how we are feeling at the moment which isn’t sexy or attractive like you say… plus you have a toddler at home which is so so tough when you’re heavily pregnant! I mean also the fact that you had to ask and it wasn’t something he said? So if you didn’t ask would he just of never said? Every relationship is different and different boundaries but I completely understand if you’re upset and I think you’re very valid for feeling the way you do!! Hope you’re okay ❤️

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