Jimmy Carr - fat, stupid kids

Not a big fan of jimmy Carr in general but I agree with this and currently going through it with my daughter. Both me and husband are overweight, and I absolutely refuse to allow or encourage my daughter to make the same choices I have. While she is under my care I will be saying no. She is really pushing my boundaries with what she eats and I’m being very firm.

Balance is what's important.

Ever met a young adult who grew up on strictly "broccoli, homework, walks, exercise"? They dive into everything they weren't allowed to enjoy or experience and sometimes it takes over their lives for a few years until they get it out their system.

I believe overly strict parenting creates rebellious teens and resentful young adults, just from my own experience and all the people I've met who grew up in a similar way.

I don’t know of this person so I can’t be sure but I get the feeling he was just trying to be inflammatory for some clout, the actual sentiment behind the words isn’t actually controversial or an unpopular opinion

100000% agree. Parents should be held accountable for young children’s health. I had a neighbour who took their morbidly obese child out of school because they were being bullied for their weight, of course bullying is vile and disgusting but surely this should be a wake up call to start taking health seriously as a family? How is it fair for a child to miss out on an education and normal socialisation because of the parents poor health choices it’s sad honestly.

Also I don’t even think it should be normalised to have a cupboard filled with junk of course anyone’s gonna raid it I would myself if I’m hungry or bored or even emotional 😭 I don’t restrict myself but having a whole cupboard filled with that stuff is a recipe for distaste it’s literally made to be addictive

Fully agree, my parents were the laid back type & I’ve grown up overweight and a fussy eater. I’ve struggled with my weight and been up and down all my life, I wish they were stricter so I had a healthier relationship with food and exercise.

I think balance and healthy food relationships are so important. I never restrict my 2 children from eating when they want but there are limitations as to what is on offer and I’ve reconfigured my cupboards and fridge to reflect that. Fruits, veg, cheese, yoghurts etc. all unlimited and in easy reach so they can help themselves. Crisps, crackers biscuits etc. higher shelves so they have to ask. Sweets, desserts etc. same, they have to ask and this is limited (usually to one thing per day) but my attitude is, if you want the chocolate after lunch then have it, but you aren’t having something sweet after dinner as well 🤷🏼‍♀️ same goes for juice (no fizzy drinks for them) but once they’ve had their fill it’s water or milk, your choice when to have your allotted amount. Having things off limits or “only if you finish your plateful” personally I think creates more issues as the thing they want as a “reward” becomes too tempting and leads to binging. Treats are allowed!

Your interpretation sounds a lot more relaxed than how he came across to me so I based my comment on his words. I agree with the way you apply it, I've just known (& experienced) parenting where unhealthy foods do get banned from their household, exercise or physical work is mandatory & has consequences if not done, screen time or internet access or really any entertainment media is heavily restricted or banned from the household, and they tell their child it's done out of love and care otherwise they will be "fat and stupid". That's just how he came across to me because the parents I've met that are very strict use the same verbiage as him.

I agree. We don’t plan to restrict things in our family, they’re just not part of our family culture. My husband and I love to read and have a huge library, so our kids will hopefully see us reading and enjoy it as well. We love hiking and camping, anything outdoors. That will be a family activity. Our kids will have access to any food they want at all times, we just only have whole healthy foods in the house except treats I bake from scratch. I plan on downgrading from a smart phone to a dumb phone when my son turns one, so he doesn’t see me scroll on it. We don’t own a tv or iPads, so screen time isn’t restricted it just doesn’t happen often (we set up a projector with a laptop for family movie nights which is awesome, it’s just a bit of work, so I won’t casually be turning on a show before dinner).

I think this issue is far more to do with family culture and what you ARE doing with and modeling for your kids versus what you AREN’T doing and modeling.

Yeah it’s an interesting thing, people love a common sense take wrapped up salaciously and even with malice, people tend to like that. I don’t know if it’s because some of that malice reflects their inner voice and they like feeling validated like that or what but it’s certainly a phenomenon in American culture too I mean it perfectly sums up the rise of Trump. People even prescribe unearned ethos and logos behind people who do that as if it’s bravery and a sign of honesty instead of malice or longing for attention. Because nobody would be talking about this opinion if it weren’t for the stupid fat kids remark.A logical and empathetic approach to most things is just boring I guess

I’m not familiar with the comedian, but I understand the message he’s trying to get across. I see something similar in my own family. My brother’s kids are 5, 3, and 2, and the 5 yr old can’t spell her name, can’t tell me her age, can’t say the alphabet, can’t count to five, and can’t write her name. The list goes on.

It’s sad because I genuinely want to help, but I have my own 15 mth old, plus classes, and I know how quickly helping for an hour turns into being responsible for everything. One hour becomes two, one day becomes overnight, and one child becomes two.

At the end of the day, it’s his responsibility to give his children the tools they need to have a real chance in the world. With delays this significant, she may need more than casual help; she may need actual experts. I teach her when I can, but the disinterest and the lack of structure at home make it difficult.

No idea who he is. Don’t agree with how he phrased it but agree with the take. I would hate myself if my kids were obese. Not only because of their health, but let’s face it, the world is cruel and it would terrible to be the reason they get bullied. At that age it’s on the parents. Although I’m more of a moderation parent. I think extremes in anything is bad.