Baby routines

My baby is 14 weeks old and still in no routine as such. He typically goes to bed at 8.30-9pm and we have a wind down routine from 7pm. But he wakes up at different times and has never slept through. He doesn’t nap at the same time each day and everything is very much baby led. I read about people who have routines and their baby sleeps though.
What’s your experience? I feel like I’m quite a disorganised person and feel bad if it’s on me not being more structured!

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None of my children had a routine. I fed on demand every 2-3 hours and they slept every 2 hours for around 1-3 hours. As they get older they become more predictable and you can have more of a routine.

I’ve got a toddler who goes to bed at 7pm so I try and get my 14 week old son down around that time and he still wakes up through night about 1-2 times for a feed and he’s then up around 6/7am sometimes later x

We are pretty much the exact same as you and I’m completely fine with baby doing whatever she wants until she develops her own routine. We usually have pretty similar wake windows each day as opposed to nap lengths etc, I just make sure she feeds enough and has enough stimulating and vestibular play throughout the day that she gets her energy out before bed

My LO is one next month and we've only just got into a routine! I found it too stressful when he was a baby baby and just followed his cues until he was older. I think it's easier to go with the flow and let baby tell you when they're hungry/ tired etc x

No structured routine as such, I just follow her lead really. She normally wakes up 8.30/ 9 and has her first nap around 11. Her last nap is around 6/7 to then be ready for bed around 8.30/9. This is usually on a “good day”. As much as I do try to uphold this routine I’m not strict w it as I know things will change. Despite this, she does still wake up several times during the night, I exclusively breastfeed.

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