Clinginess

I have a 9 week old and when he was first born the minute I put him down he’d cry it got to point where I was barely getting an hour sleep every night cause he wouldn’t even settle on my partner, he’s now 9 weeks and exactly the same once my partner went back to work it left me with the only option of co sleeping with him otherwise it’d be more dangerous me being so tired around him I feel as tho it’s only made it worst he can’t stand being put down it leaves me in a situation where I can’t do anything for myself cause he’s in my arms constantly I try with morning feed like once he’s don’t feeding I wait 20 mins then they transfer him I’ve tried every method swaddling, feet them bum then head then hand gently on chest we do car rides but he wakes up as soon as car stops pram walks he’s familiar with feeling of the stones under pram on our drive so wakes up I’ve tried carrier but once put down wakes up again, I love him to pieces but it gets overwhelming especially with the dog as the dog follows me around and wants attention to not to mention the house is a mess and my partner tried his best but he work long hours it’s driving me insane especially the crying it’s not like a slight cry it’s like cry until can’t catch breath kind of cry until I pick him up again

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If you put a cloth with your scent around him, it could help him stay down for a while

Alternatively i carry my bouncer or playmat into any room i need to do work in. If they can see you they should remain quiet

Usually when i engage my daughter while she’s in her bouncer or on the playmat she doesn’t cry for a while

Could this potentially be reflux? If he literally will not be put down at all?

I know sometimes it’s tricky putting them down. If you moved too rushed they wake up. My son used to do that. Does he have a binky or pacifier. There are also those small squares that have an animal head on the corner. With SIDS you got to be careful what you put in the crib. Or if your bottle feeding warm milk take it out of his mouth as you are laying him down. Boys are finicky.

Also if he’s catching his breath just a slow puff of air will stop that.

This was my son, and after he got a herniated bellybutton from all the crying/screaming, I co-slept because i was sleeping every 2/3 days at one point.
All i can say is whatever you figure out or try, be consistent. It may take a few months but they will adjust. I quit too early.

He is now almost 2yrs old, still clinging to me. The dog and cat are still competing, and the house still needs cleaning. It drives me crazy sometimes too, but looking back, time REALLY FLEW, so try to embrace, enjoy, and most importantly take a break when you need to. It matters theee most

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My LO is 5weeks tomorrow and my lovely MIL has come round to look after her so I can have a nap now my husband has gone back to work, but I just can't sleep when I can hear her crying downstairs...
its like electric shocks going through my body!!
I've gone down twice to try to feed her to sleep but she keeps waking up 😭
Please tell me this isnt just me and also that it settles down over time as my god I need to sleep!!! 🙏🏻