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4am wake ups

So my mum had my kid overnight a couple weeks ago and for some reason decided that when he woke up at 4.15 that was when they’d start their day. She knew damn well he doesn’t get up at that time we lived with the woman, she was just trynna be annoying because we were moving out. Anyways ever since then he’s carried on the ridiculous time wake ups, doesn’t matter how shit of a nights sleep he has he’s up, and I am DONE! I’ve tried desperately every single day to rock him back to sleep, I’ve tried ignoring him if he’s okay but then he’s wide awake and definately not going back to sleep. Trying to rock him ends in me covered in bruises and he hurts himself too (he does this all day every day but he’s under ever specialist possible so there’s no one new I can speak to). I rock him to sleep at bedtime and nap time every day fine. I’ve tried keeping him awake until his usual nap time but kid is passing out on the floor at 11am, I can’t let him have a longer nap cuz he won’t sleep at all then, and I can’t push back bedtime and just have a longer evening cuz it’s just a screaming match again with the hurting us both. I need him to go back to sleep, I’m not going to sleep train him. Before this he was up at half 7 maybe 8. What actually works to get a kid back to sleep cuz I’m lost.
17 months, 35 weeker,
TIA