Friendship brake downs
Hi
So since the age of 18 I’ve had one main group of girlfriends. There 5 of us. Now we’re all nearly 40, we’ve seen each other go through a lot. We’ve welcomed children, get married, get divorced, loose parents, have breast cancer diagnosis, get jobs, loose jobs etc…. We’ve been through a lot.
I don’t want to loose my relationship with these woman, but for a while now our relationship with each other has been mainly through just doing the odd day out with the kids. I can’t even remember the last time we had drinks together, went for a meal or even just hung out with a takeaway.
I know it changes with kids. I’m the last to have a baby and I’ve barely had the time to shower, never mind see the girls for cocktails. So I get it. Money can be tight and people have busy lives.
But I don’t want this to be the end of a really special friendship group. We don’t even chat about fun gossip anymore. I hesitate to say things now even in our WhatsApp chat. As an example I tried a new makeup and loved it and I wanted to share it with my friends but I hesitated because we just don’t really chat like that anymore.
We just organise a meet up and try attempt to fill each other in with what’s happening in our lives while supervising a bunch of kids. Which is almost impossible to hold a decent conversation with kids around. After that there zero girl chat.
I miss it but don’t know if this is normal, if it’s just a phase or if we’re drifting apart.
Anyone else been through this?
I need tips with how I can maybe turn this around.
