What's your take on this?

So I'm a registered nurse and I work in the UK, previously on an acute medical ward. I now work in more elective medicine and surgery. When I first qualified and started my job. They called me the nurse of death.

I get this bone chilling shiver and they used to say 'check your patients' because I'd get this feeling that would hit me like a wall and I'd bet any money that one of our patients had died (end of life care) or sudden and unexpected deaths due to trauma etc. I'd physically vomit during this time on occasion.

I don't work in medicine anymore but I still experience this feeling. I asked my sister how her in laws were doing one day out of instinct and that same time (on the hour) a family member passed.

I wonder if this is a gift as I was always told it wasn't, working in medicine. I have moved into a more positive field of nursing due to my experiences and stress of work. I care deeply when life takes my patients, expected or not. It still hurts and I remember their faces.

I'd love your opinions on this as sometimes it freaks me out where as others I found comfort in helping my patients pass peacefully as sometimes I'd be be able to assist them just in time.

Please don't take offence, I've literally never told anyone this except my colleagues on shift

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