Nursery pick up
Just wondering what I’m doing wrong or if anyone else is in the same boat ☹️
My son absolutely loves nursery, however whenever I pick him up as soon as he sees me walk into the building he screams the place down, smacks me multiple times and throws himself around when I try to pick him up him up and comfort him. It just makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong, all the other mums have their kids run up to them for a massive hug and they happily go off with their mum but with my son he acts so different, it’s so embarrassing and I’ve had a few dirty looks for it, I honestly feel like crying everytime we leave the building, I just don’t know what to do, as soon as we get home his back to being my best friend again☹️
MIL making weird comments...
My mother-in-law and I have a good relationship overall. In fact, my baby, my partner, and I are currently living with her temporarily. She has welcomed us very warmly and been quite supportive. She's not the most maternal person I know tho, that's for sure. Besides my partner, she has another son, an 8yo, and seeing how she is with him helps me understand a lot about my partner and his avoidant attachment style (since she isn't very loving and caring.
But my problem is that she uses a language I don't like when referring to both her son and mine. For example, sometimes she tells her son he's being an idiot when he's tired or hungry. Sometimes she calls him unbearable. She's never yelled at him, at least not in my presence, but I don't like that kind of language she uses with both her son and my baby. When she asks how did we slept, and we didn't sleep very well, she also calls him an idiot or unbearable, and it bothers me. I don't know how to deal with it because I don't know what to even say to her either.
But today something happened that upset me a bit. This morning, my baby was in his high chair, and she came up behind him, so he arched his back and I turned my head back to see her stretching his neck a lot. She came closer and, in a sweet tone, started running her hand along his neck, saying, "I'm going to cut your little neck, I'm going to cut your little neck!" My partner was behind me, so I didn't see his reaction. I was washing the dishes and I was stunned. I didn't know what to say because she said it in a playful or tender tone, but it didn't seem appropriate AT ALL. But she was saying it with such a sweet and playful voice, that I didn't say anything.
Has anyone else had to deal with a similar situation and can share advice on how to handle this?
Useless partner (sorry it’s long I need real good advice tho pls I feel so lost atm)
So I’m 3 weeks PP, my partner has been absolutely useless towards me, he won’t do any house work unless I literally go on and on and on and even then he won’t do it because he thinks I’m being a “bully” and walks out the house, I get called everything under the sun and walked out on pretty much everyday.. he has absolutely no interest in me, he’s either in the bathroom for ages, outside vaping or goes to sleep in the car now is the new thing and walking out on us all.
He went back to work last week which I get he’s tired but I’m doing EVERYTHING myself I also had stitches due to my birth so I can’t even lift anything atm.
I have a 5 year old who’s his step child so I’m basically cleaning up after 4 people including myself, he’s made jokes about “miss postpartum and my postpartum moods” I’m seriously so u happy in this relationship it started to get like this in my pregnancy but I didn’t wanna be alone, I’m really worried to be on my own again as it means I’m a single mum to two different kids and two different dads
I’ve been saying all night how fat I feel and upset I am and he’s just gone and said to me I’m a fat c**t and I have fat fingers apparently too lol.. how lovely!!
Can I just add I do cook every dinner, wash everything up, buy everything! I’ve paid for absolutely everything this month as he didn’t get paid for one week now apparently he has no money and can’t afford it but he can buy himself vapes. I feel incredibly lonely
Girls should I just leave and be strong
Or do I try and work this out for the kids ?
