Nursery pick up
Just wondering what I’m doing wrong or if anyone else is in the same boat ☹️
My son absolutely loves nursery, however whenever I pick him up as soon as he sees me walk into the building he screams the place down, smacks me multiple times and throws himself around when I try to pick him up him up and comfort him. It just makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong, all the other mums have their kids run up to them for a massive hug and they happily go off with their mum but with my son he acts so different, it’s so embarrassing and I’ve had a few dirty looks for it, I honestly feel like crying everytime we leave the building, I just don’t know what to do, as soon as we get home his back to being my best friend again☹️
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My sister is the same, I think they just love it there so much, interacting with other babies their age with different toys and activities etc. she would scream and cry when I used to pick her up, cry throughout the car ride home and then be as happy as a horse as soon as we step inside. I think it’s normal, it just depends on the child x
They release pent up emotions/frustration etc from the day with the person they feel safest with.
Sounds like he has a really good bond with you and you are doing an amazing job 😍
We had this for a while with my two year old. It was so embarrassing. I couldn’t get her out of the building and she would just kick and scream and cry the whole way out. I had to get my husband to start doing pick ups because it was so tough. All I can say is that it was a phase, lasted maybe 4-6 weeks (which felt ages at the time!) but then just stopped.
When I've gone to pick my LO up from nursery, if theyre in the garden, he'll close the gate on me and walk off because he wants to carry on playing 🙈x
A lot of the time it’s actually because they become so overwhelmed that the separation is over plus they remember they were also slightly angry at you for leaving them in the first place even though the had fun and you’ve finally come back that they just go into meltdown because the don’t know how to articulate or regulate themselves appropriately
I find that if a child has worked hard at being good all day, they are more likely to lash out at home/with the person they feel the safest with. I wouldn’t take it personally. It’s just a thing with children who struggle to regulate emotions… you are safe. To be honest we as adults do the same thing with the person we feel safest with.
Hes held himself together all day. He sees you and its like "IM SAFE, IM FOR SURE SAFE" and the fear comes out of him in tears and in anger.
Just remind him on the way to nursery that he is safe, that youre coming to pick him up and that you love him. He could be afraid of not seeing you and thats scary for a tiny human when it comes to their favorite person.
It’s actually the opposite to what you think, seeing you and reacting like that means he’s releasing emotions he’s been holding back with people he’s less comfortable with!
You are his safe place and when they are so tiny, it becomes super overwhelming and they don’t know what to do with themselves!
So my son did this when he was younger he’s now 5.
It helped when I started saying mummy missed you so much shall we have a hug. Just hold him and let him feel safe again for a few minutes.
I think they’re without us all day and have to behave different at nursery that when they finally see us they’re big emotions are going everywhere.
Try it, it may just work for you too.
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