Was this rude and immature?

My brother, his partner and their baby came to visit us. We cooked fajitas. When my brothers partner got here she asked what we had for lunch. We told her we made fajitas. She started whining and complaining saying she doesn’t want that, and that she want rice and proper food. So much so that we put some rice on the cooker and my husband went out to buy her some plantain which we fried for her. Was she rude and childish for this?

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Puree pouches

Can someone enlighten me on why NHS advises against too many food pouches in one week? When they're organic and no added extras? It makes me feel really guilty/lazy for giving him them

There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

I dont know how to explain it. When i look at him i dont feel the sane way as i do with his sibling. He has anger issues, he says things that leave me speechless, when he is angry he will things like when i grow up i will hit you with a hammer or when i grow up i will put you on fire and watch you die and i have no idea how he learnt this or where from. He only watches cartoons and he doesnt go to nursery/school. I cant love him the same way i do his sibling and i resent him alot. I really have to try my best to show equality. What do i do?

Is this normal or do I just have a lazy partner?

My child’s father has been sleeping in the other room as I’m just so done with all the shit I have to deal with him. We are already on thin ice. I’ve voiced how I want him to actually be a partner and do his bit as a dad and work with me raising the kids, doing the shopping, cleaning the house cooking etc. he’s so lazy. This morning our three year old was really upset and didn’t want to go to nursery. He can hear this and I know he’s awake as I heard his alarm go off 20 mins before and know he’s just lying in his bed on his phone. Our daughter is being really difficult getting dressed but finally I manage. I then start doing her hair and when it comes to brushing her teeth she’s even more upset and crying. All the while he made himself a cup of tea, got himself ready and is sat on the toilet. I come out and start screaming at him why haven’t you helped as my stress levels are so high and he says well I’m driving her to nursery you’re not so you can get her ready. Nursery is literally a five min drive away in the direction of his work. Also I work too I just leave slightly later than them but have barely anytime to get myself ready when they leave. Is this normal or is this a bad partner?

My 4.5 yr old is still not potty trained and i am about to lose it

He is 4.5, and he doesnt care. We started potty training at 2 yrs old, so 2.5 years ago. He pees and poos in his underwear and sits in it for hours without telling me. The feeling of being wet and sticky from feces and pee doesnt seem to bother him. I am at my wits end. I wont know what to do anymore. I remind him every 30 min, every hour. Sometimes i take him to the toilet and he says theres nothing in my belly but 5 min later he will hide behind the couch to poop or pee freely as he is playing. I have tried every trick under the sun. Rewards, gifts, chocolate, punishment, consequences, etc. NOTHING is working. Please help. I feel like the older he is getting the harder its getting and he will be in diapers for the rest of his life.

Thoughts?

If not using traditional nursery/childminder etc and have the Grandparents as your child care…

Do you expect them to do other small bits around the house, I.e washing up or putting in the dishwasher the bits they have used themselves or with baby throughout the day, hanging up some clean washing etc?

Also would you pre-prepare your little ones food for the day? Or would you expect Granny to make their lunch etc?

Going out with baby and toddler

Any advice on this? I feel I’m stuck in the house since having a baby, and my toddler is paying for it. I have no confidence in going out myself and the two of them. Please any advice or tips?
My toddlers is feral, I’m just scared I couldn’t handle her or her tantrums or chase her around while having the baby in the carrier .