Was this rude and immature?

My brother, his partner and their baby came to visit us. We cooked fajitas. When my brothers partner got here she asked what we had for lunch. We told her we made fajitas. She started whining and complaining saying she doesn’t want that, and that she want rice and proper food. So much so that we put some rice on the cooker and my husband went out to buy her some plantain which we fried for her. Was she rude and childish for this?

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She came to visit you in your home. Rejected your cooking. Insulted your food choices. Made you go get her other food. Then made you cook it.

Next time lock the front door.

I’m sorry, is your brothers partner 3?! 🤔 I had to read twice as I thought the baby complained about the food 😂

No that’s immature and ridiculous for an adult to complain about a home-cooked meal IN somebody’s home!

Personally … I wouldn’t entertain the thought of doing something separate for her

Hell I don’t even do that for kids! This is the food, when we are hungry, we eat the food 🤷🏻‍♀️

I could go to someone's house for dinner and they serve me toast and i'd be happy. Ruuuuuuude

Sounds like a toddler

Yeah just eat the food

Next time ask her to pack a lunch. That’s crazy.

That’s why I don’t want visitors. They come with their cheap baby grows, but want a cooked meal. You should have told her off.

People should bring food, when visiting you and your baby.

The only way I’d find this acceptable at all is if she’s pregnant.. otherwise she’s just ridiculous

There’s nothing wrong with it. U just don’t have to do it, she or her partner can take care of her needs

Omg if she really wants rice at lunch then cook some and bring it with her to share with you guys

I wouldn't even do this for a child lol
Eat what you're offered or bring your own food.

Unless she has huge food aversions (pregnant or sick?) the behavior is not acceptable and very rude.

Rude as fuck. I wouldn't dare. Also, I wouldn't have bent over backwards for her. If she doesn't want what you're making, let her go hungry

I would have said this isn't a restaurant, you are free to leave and go to one

She was defo rude, if I had rice I would have put some one too cos you know we could all enjoy it with fajitas too but I’d be cursing her in my head for how she said it and I most definitely wouldn’t be leaving my house to go get anything else

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