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If not using traditional nursery/childminder etc and have the Grandparents as your child care…

Do you expect them to do other small bits around the house, I.e washing up or putting in the dishwasher the bits they have used themselves or with baby throughout the day, hanging up some clean washing etc?

Also would you pre-prepare your little ones food for the day? Or would you expect Granny to make their lunch etc?

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My mum will be looking after my son when I return to work, and will he coming to my house everyday. I've said ill make my son a little packed lunch for the day. I've told her to just focus on him and don't do the house work x

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Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

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Jimmy Carr - fat, stupid kids

I'm fully in agreement with this. I think 'stupid' is a bit harsh but yeah, you gotta be a bit strict with your kids and be the one to hold the boundaries.

One of our family members has a son , who has since 3 yr old, been allowed to help himself to the snack cupboard where there is chocolate, crisps any junk food when he is 'hungry'. He drinks fizzy pop and juice.
There is no limit on screen time and he spends most days on his computer in his room.
He is probably 3 times his healthy weight, if not more.

It is really sad to see- he's statistically likely to be bullied for his weight and he can't keep up with kids his age.

They are both big too (but did not grow up that way) I just don't know why you'd want it for your kids.

And yes, you can think I'm being too judgy , but that's a kid's life and your parental choices have had a massive effect on his health and path in life.

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Not pregnancy related but how would you feel?

So my husband goes away with work sometimes and he’s just been on what was a last minute work trip abroad for a few weeks. I’m obviously pregnant (34 weeks) at home with our two year old, he had to miss her birthday because of this trip so I’ve been really busy making that special and having lots of family over etc. doing it alone has been exhausting and I do find this aspect of his work hard to accept and sometimes feel a bit resentful about it when I have tough days. Bearing in mind he can be away from home for months on end sometimes.
Anyway, with work friends he’s obviously been going on nights out and I knew from him telling me that where they are there weren’t any clubs to end the night so everyone would end in the strip club/bar because it was open till early hours. He said nothing really was on display anyway and they just wanted somewhere to continue drinking. I’ve not had anything against strip clubs on the whole anyway so I felt fine about that.

Since he got home a couple of days ago, rightly or wrongly I got intrigued and asked if he’d had a lap dance. I know I shouldn’t have asked if I couldn’t handle the answer but yeah he said he did pay for one, it was one of the lads birthday and the four of them all had one, he didn’t want to be the only one not having one and waiting for the rest. So apparently they all had it in the same room but a girl each. I feel like because of the context of me being left at home to look after our child, heavily pregnant, taking care of everything alone, uncomfortable etc that I’m taking it harder than I normally would. I also feel more insecure in my self in terms of being sexually attractive to him which is natural when pregnant so this just made me feel even more vulnerable in that sense. The thought of another woman on him, him getting hard etc while I’m home in this situation. It feels like a betrayal, is it just pregnancy hormones making me feel worse or would you feel hurt by this? I don’t know how I want to be around him right now.

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Relationship advice

Really need some advice. My partner and I have been together for 4 years, we have a 7 month old baby. He is amazing with our baby and he helps me out so much. Sometimes he does a lot more than me and I really do appreciate him. We both live at my parents house and he is not in contact with his family. I’m just struggling to find the love now. I don’t know what it is. It’s been like it for a while. I don’t know if leaving him is a good idea, he would have no where to go and I would be breaking up our family when he has been nothing but amazing and our little boy loves him so much. I’m stuck. Could this still be from my hormones changing? I don’t know if I should wait it out to see if I feel something eventually or if I should leave him. But even if I did he would have absolutely no where to go.

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Menorca

Has anyone travelled to Menorca mid May? I’m travelling with my 9 month old and unsure what type of clothes to pack for night time.

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Crappy baby daddy

Just needed a vent really I left my baby daddy due to abuse towards myself and towards my son not so much my daughter (he used to just get angry with her when she was being a pterodactyl in the mornings)
But since I’ve moved on with someone who makes me happy and treats me right my baby daddy has refused to bring my children home to me and is controlling how and when I can speak to them this is only ever on FaceTime and I can only speak to my daughter when she’s having bath time and my son when he’s in the car and if he tried to tell me any personal information baby daddy always mutes the FaceTime and or tells him to “shut up” i just feel so alone with it all. Rant over

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