Crappy baby daddy

Just needed a vent really I left my baby daddy due to abuse towards myself and towards my son not so much my daughter (he used to just get angry with her when she was being a pterodactyl in the mornings)
But since I’ve moved on with someone who makes me happy and treats me right my baby daddy has refused to bring my children home to me and is controlling how and when I can speak to them this is only ever on FaceTime and I can only speak to my daughter when she’s having bath time and my son when he’s in the car and if he tried to tell me any personal information baby daddy always mutes the FaceTime and or tells him to “shut up” i just feel so alone with it all. Rant over

in our community

People with children just don’t get it😡

I have a gbf he’s nice we enjoy going out together but when I bring my toddler I feel as if he’s a burden, yes toddlers play up sometimes, get tired, ratty but he dosent have children and finds him exhausting and makes comments like “so glad I don’t have children” “couldn’t deal with that” etc. he never sees the true side of my little boy he hardly ever sees him but it’s really upset me should I take this so personal or jus brush it off.

Is this fair?

I’ve been with my partner for 7 years, and he’s a mechanic who manages his garage. He’s always handled my car—MOTs, servicing, repairs—just like he does for his mum, dad, and friends.

Recently, he told me he feels I don’t respect him or do enough for him (not sure why but anyway)🙄 because of that, he won’t work on my car anymore. My car just failed its MOT and needs two tyres and a shock, so it’s going to be expensive but that’s not really the issue.

What’s upsetting is that he’s refusing to help me at all and says I now have to go through the garage and pay full prices like any other customer. At the same time, he still goes out of his way to help family and friends, even when they’ve treated him poorly in the past.

It just feels hurtful, like he’s punishing me😓 is this fair? I don’t know where he’s getting that I don’t do anything for him, I constantly clean, cook, wash, work, school run/pick up, be with our child while he swans off after work🙄

Is it fair to wait or am i being selfish?

Maybe this is just my mom guilt popping up, but i put together a play kitchen for my 1 year old. Its designed to make real mud pies and so i was going to put it in one of our garden beds that diddnt take so he can play in the dirt hes ver interested in right now.

Heres the issue. That thing made putting IKEA furniture look like a breeze. It literally took my an entire week and many tears. I even had to go get a new kind of screwdriver, and im fantastic at putting together stuff like this. Because it took so long, its now my one break day per week. The next day i tutor and wont be home till dinner. My husband is a sahd so really he could pull the kitchen out now and introduce him to the play kitchen right now, but i feel like im being selfish for wanting to wait the 2 days till i can introduce it myself.
My son has been watching me put it together and besides "helping" me put it together when he would hold my screwdriver he doesnt know what it is.

Am i being selfish or crazy?

Do you have a joint account for bills & shopping?

My husband and i bought our house in 2020 and without a discussion put the mortgage and bills in his name. I wasn't happy but it was done. I have to send him money every month after he tells me how much the bills came up to. Shopping we take turns to pay which isn't fair as one week might be more than others. Also, I do odd shops and buy the essentials for my newborn. This is causing a lot of arguments so my mum intervened and suggested having a joint account to make it fair.
He's now backtracking saying I have to make more effort with him, having date nights and not hide behind my children (ages 3 and 9 weeks). This is what's important to him. Is this fair?

Safest first foods?

I have really bad PTSD & Anxiety surrounding BLW. My 8mo is ready but I'm not. I don't want to hold her back.
I watched her have CPR twice while she waited for open heart surgery and the trauma of her 4 month fight from birth has me in a chokehold.

I know bigger foods are safer, easily squished between fingers ect

But what about things like tuna mayo? Mashed up flakes?

Salmon? (Am I not right that fish is a possible allergy caution food?)

I know broccoli and Carrot, sweet potatoe ect but is there anything else

What is the majority census of least likely choking food?

She's managed baby melty puffs, baby wafers, baby biscotti all fine...

(I only gave her these things because they say they melt in the mouth)

> I have health visitor coming out in 2 weeks to LITERALLY hold my hand and be present while I make my 8mo her first proper BLW meal of finger foods

> I am booking a baby and child first aid course with st johns ambulance for the 9th May

Weaning

I’ve started weaning my baby she’s 6 months and 2 weeks and since I’ve tried her on food she’s been off her bottles and throwing most things up and most of her bottles and she was settled before. I’ve barely given her any food just spoonfuls to try.. is this normal or something I would need to see the GP for?