How would you feel?

Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

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From a person who over thinks everything, I’d at least just introduce myself as the parents or wave whenever I see the other parent. I just like to make sure they know an adult is watching them or supervising the children. Maybe they keep an eye on them thru a window? Take a peek to see what they are doing??

The parents may never be in sight but maybe they can physically see them? I used to live in a court/culdesac. My kids out in the court on the bikes I can glimpse out the window and see them, I’d be on the couch which is right beside the window. To someone looking at the kid they may look like they’re unsupervised but I’m usually sitting at my window looking out or on my phone and looking up and down, I can see them even though I’m not visible to neighbours.

Do the children look clean and while taking care of?

This would make me uncomfortable. I would probably ask the kids to go home and get their parents so we could meet. The 2 year old should never be left alone without a parent or caregiver. Anything could happen. I wouldn’t allow the 2 year old to play without their adult with them.

Extra weird. As soon as my daughter starts playing with other kids, going in their yard or playing with their toys I Make conversation with the parents & she definitely would not be playing anywhere in someone else’s yard alone without me atleast getting to know the parents first. WOW 😮

What era did you grow up in? I’ve had plenty of friends with parents mine never met but those were also the friends who lived close by as long as a parent could look out and see me everything was fine they never worried it was the friends who lived out of sight who’s parents swapped numbers with mine

It’s definitely weird to me… I can’t imagine my kids gone for hours on end not knowing what they’re doing or who they’re with. Especially having a two year old child. Even if you are neighbors you’re complete strangers.

That’s neglect 5-8 are too young and vulnerable to not have supervision.
Very sad for those kids, I bet they really look forward to playing in your yard.

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