There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

I dont know how to explain it. When i look at him i dont feel the sane way as i do with his sibling. He has anger issues, he says things that leave me speechless, when he is angry he will things like when i grow up i will hit you with a hammer or when i grow up i will put you on fire and watch you die and i have no idea how he learnt this or where from. He only watches cartoons and he doesnt go to nursery/school. I cant love him the same way i do his sibling and i resent him alot. I really have to try my best to show equality. What do i do?

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What cartoons does he watch?

Set you on fire and watch you die? 😳 A 3yo would not know about those things without having watched it either on TV/real life or heard someone talk about it. You need to get to the bottom of who/what is influencing him.

What about family members? Do you have a partner? I’m assuming you aren’t the only one with your child 24/7.

Side note he isnt like this with his dad or other relatives. He is the sweetest version of himself. Even when he was a baby he would be a nightmare with me but with everyone else he would settle and become a happy baby. When i tell my husband this he doesn’t believe me or makes me feel like a bad person for saying it or feeling this way. It reminds me of the
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Hes heard or watched these things kids let alone toddlers dont come out with these things on there own so the only concerning part is where hes heard this stuff ' and if you feel that way towards hes most definitely gonna feel it and feel the difference which isnt fair on him hes a toddler and feel sad for him you dont love him the same ' i have 3 children currently pregnant woth 4th my middle som 8 years old has adhd and can say things that would hurt me and had outbrusts and I love him with all off me ' i think you need to talk to someone about this professional for ur sake and sons to understand what's going '

I agree he must’ve seen or heard it somewhere - I would still get him in therapy to understand where it’s coming from

What kind of cartoons ? If he had free access to youtube or the internet he could be watching cartoons with sinister plots and violence. Its very concerning either way and sometimes kids are sociopathic and it is no one’s fault. However I would get some early intervention. Also try not to show your resentment because it can create a loop. He is already feeling angry towards you but you are the adult.

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How would you feel?

Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

Is this normal or do I just have a lazy partner?

My child’s father has been sleeping in the other room as I’m just so done with all the shit I have to deal with him. We are already on thin ice. I’ve voiced how I want him to actually be a partner and do his bit as a dad and work with me raising the kids, doing the shopping, cleaning the house cooking etc. he’s so lazy. This morning our three year old was really upset and didn’t want to go to nursery. He can hear this and I know he’s awake as I heard his alarm go off 20 mins before and know he’s just lying in his bed on his phone. Our daughter is being really difficult getting dressed but finally I manage. I then start doing her hair and when it comes to brushing her teeth she’s even more upset and crying. All the while he made himself a cup of tea, got himself ready and is sat on the toilet. I come out and start screaming at him why haven’t you helped as my stress levels are so high and he says well I’m driving her to nursery you’re not so you can get her ready. Nursery is literally a five min drive away in the direction of his work. Also I work too I just leave slightly later than them but have barely anytime to get myself ready when they leave. Is this normal or is this a bad partner?

Thoughts?

If not using traditional nursery/childminder etc and have the Grandparents as your child care…

Do you expect them to do other small bits around the house, I.e washing up or putting in the dishwasher the bits they have used themselves or with baby throughout the day, hanging up some clean washing etc?

Also would you pre-prepare your little ones food for the day? Or would you expect Granny to make their lunch etc?

There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

Is it just me???

Ok so my husband and I have had this discussion plenty of times. Well maybe not a discussion more of me letting him know that something bothers me very much. If I text my husband I would kike him to respond or if I call I would like for him to answer but does he fuck no. I feel like if you truly care about someone the least you could do is respond it’s not that hard. He says cause he doesn’t always have his phone in his hand which I’m aware of but you would think he would check it every so often thinking hhmm I haven’t heard from my wife I wonder if she’s ok or if she’s tried to get ahold of me but no he doesn’t. I have told him many times that I do not like being ignored it makes me feel like he doesn’t care. Am I overreacting??? The part that bothers me the most is that I have told him I don’t like it how it makes me feel and he still has not even attempted to change it. He swears he is never in the wrong it’s always me thinking negatively or seeing it a way it’s not. I’m really not crazy and sometimes I feel like he tries to make me think I am just so he doesn’t have to admit he is in the wrong or that his actions could have made me feel hurt.

There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

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There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

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