Useless partner (sorry it’s long I need real good advice tho pls I feel so lost atm)

So I’m 3 weeks PP, my partner has been absolutely useless towards me, he won’t do any house work unless I literally go on and on and on and even then he won’t do it because he thinks I’m being a “bully” and walks out the house, I get called everything under the sun and walked out on pretty much everyday.. he has absolutely no interest in me, he’s either in the bathroom for ages, outside vaping or goes to sleep in the car now is the new thing and walking out on us all.

He went back to work last week which I get he’s tired but I’m doing EVERYTHING myself I also had stitches due to my birth so I can’t even lift anything atm.

I have a 5 year old who’s his step child so I’m basically cleaning up after 4 people including myself, he’s made jokes about “miss postpartum and my postpartum moods” I’m seriously so u happy in this relationship it started to get like this in my pregnancy but I didn’t wanna be alone, I’m really worried to be on my own again as it means I’m a single mum to two different kids and two different dads
I’ve been saying all night how fat I feel and upset I am and he’s just gone and said to me I’m a fat c**t and I have fat fingers apparently too lol.. how lovely!!

Can I just add I do cook every dinner, wash everything up, buy everything! I’ve paid for absolutely everything this month as he didn’t get paid for one week now apparently he has no money and can’t afford it but he can buy himself vapes. I feel incredibly lonely

Girls should I just leave and be strong
Or do I try and work this out for the kids ?

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Sincerely it can be worked on

First, choose you and your baby

Second, tell him you’re still healing and if he can’t help you’ll no longer be going out of your way for anyone… and mean it. He needs to bath his child, you’re not permitted to lift more than your baby for 6 weeks.

Third, look after yourself. Cook what you can and when you can. If you can’t cook good others in the house; let them get take out

You’ll have to be intentional about your mental health and healing because if anything happens to you trust me they’ll move on like you were never here!

Fucking hell. You need to leave him if things do not change after X amount of time or you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery. He called the mother of his child, 3 weeks PP, a fat cunt. There’s only one cunt here - him. What a disgusting man. You deserve better. The jokes about ‘ miss PP’ are just as bad, he does not respect what you have been through or your recovery. Does not matter if you’re a single mum of two - so normal these days and your happiness is more important. If you need the financial support whilst you’re on mat leave, don’t make any rash decisions

I was going through something similar, I left for a week with my son. I didnt tell him when I would be back. While I was still away, we had a very serious conversation where I was able to lay EVERYTHING out that I had been sitting on. I was able to see how sincere he was and that he was struggling in his own ways also that he was able to talk about. It still hasn't been that long but I've seen an instant change. Just really hope things keep getting better. If he wants you and his family, he might just need to know what it feels like with you guys gone.
I hope you get the outcome you want and deserve.

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