in abusive relationship

not ready to leave. if u never been thru it dont judge. i dont need a pep talk or the obvious truths bc its not working..i need advice in what to do while i stay. to gain confidence and strength so when i leave im strong enough to not go back and to be like HIS LOSS! to make him feel as bad as possible losing me. because right now im emotional and begging him, he def feels in control and manipulates my reactions as me the problem. again, i know the reality, i just know myself personally what will help me

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If you’re begging him , he’ll never feel sorry if you leaving . That man doesn’t love you anymore , he’ll
Probably miss the person you are when you leave an he doesn’t find anyone better . But you never know he might never feel bad when you leave . Goodluck

As someone who has been in abuse relationship best advice I can give is remember to take day by day. I honestly couldn’t get the courage to leave for a long long time. I finally hit the last straw that made me done and never look back and fully understood I deserved better. Until then just be careful and have a safety person that if they havent heard from u in a certain amount of time that they will call in a welfare check to make sure ur okay or come and check on u

I know you ask for not the typical advice, but think about he is laughing right now at you thinking when you leave he will feel bad when actually when you leave he will just say “well finally, lets look for another victim” meanwhile you are loosing you because you love him so much.

Try to stay safe and do things which build your independence. Things you want to do which make you happy. Try to slowly create space and distance; hopefully as your confidence grows you’ll feel more and more ready. Stay safe x

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Nursery pick up

Just wondering what I’m doing wrong or if anyone else is in the same boat ☹️

My son absolutely loves nursery, however whenever I pick him up as soon as he sees me walk into the building he screams the place down, smacks me multiple times and throws himself around when I try to pick him up him up and comfort him. It just makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong, all the other mums have their kids run up to them for a massive hug and they happily go off with their mum but with my son he acts so different, it’s so embarrassing and I’ve had a few dirty looks for it, I honestly feel like crying everytime we leave the building, I just don’t know what to do, as soon as we get home his back to being my best friend again☹️

Useless partner (sorry it’s long I need real good advice tho pls I feel so lost atm)

So I’m 3 weeks PP, my partner has been absolutely useless towards me, he won’t do any house work unless I literally go on and on and on and even then he won’t do it because he thinks I’m being a “bully” and walks out the house, I get called everything under the sun and walked out on pretty much everyday.. he has absolutely no interest in me, he’s either in the bathroom for ages, outside vaping or goes to sleep in the car now is the new thing and walking out on us all.

He went back to work last week which I get he’s tired but I’m doing EVERYTHING myself I also had stitches due to my birth so I can’t even lift anything atm.

I have a 5 year old who’s his step child so I’m basically cleaning up after 4 people including myself, he’s made jokes about “miss postpartum and my postpartum moods” I’m seriously so u happy in this relationship it started to get like this in my pregnancy but I didn’t wanna be alone, I’m really worried to be on my own again as it means I’m a single mum to two different kids and two different dads
I’ve been saying all night how fat I feel and upset I am and he’s just gone and said to me I’m a fat c**t and I have fat fingers apparently too lol.. how lovely!!

Can I just add I do cook every dinner, wash everything up, buy everything! I’ve paid for absolutely everything this month as he didn’t get paid for one week now apparently he has no money and can’t afford it but he can buy himself vapes. I feel incredibly lonely

Girls should I just leave and be strong
Or do I try and work this out for the kids ?

Start of solids “baby weetabix”

Hi all, the pediatritian yesterday recommended us to start solids with the baby version of weetabix mixed with breastmilk. He said a specific name for this baby weetabix thing but neither me or my husband manage to remember. Anyone knows what this thing is???

How often do you say "I'm tired of this grandpa" or some other common chronicly online saying.

Admittedly I do this sort of thing often.

Baby fell off bed

My boy turned 8 months old today and unfortunately fell off my bed. He hit his head and has a 1.5cm graze. Took him to a&e and they cleared him. Sent home within under an hour. He has been fine, his normal self.
I just can’t shift the guilt and I keep crying whenever I think about it or see his graze.
I suppose I am writing this to offload but also gain any support/advice from others.
I’m already struggling atm feeling inadequate. This has just sent me over.

Homeschooling

I need opinions! How much work is homeschooling? What kind of resources are there for homeschooling parents?
I have a 5 year old who would be in kindergarten next year but is in pre-k now. Not long ago a strange man was found walking around in her school. We were told he was no threat but they have security so it makes me nervous that he got in there in the first place and is making me think more and about homeschooling. I just don't know anyone who does it on their own so I need insight before I take a giant leap and it ends up hurting my kids education.