Visitors of newborn.

I found that even when I was pregnant , family and friends with a cough would not see us. I say before you give birth say that you want the two months to heal and adjust to the new routine . You’re going to be healing and sleep deprived anyways & people will expect tea and a buffet of food when they come over . You can’t do that right away .

I would say it via group chat before you give birth

nope but they kissed him on the lips🙃tragic

We set very clear boundaries about visiting, which meant not coming if they were poorly or felt they were coming down with something. Definitely no kissing baby either!
Everyone respected our wishes, but we have very understanding friends and family.

The type of people I have in my life would never do this.

I would make it clear its invite only and do small amounts. Like my mum came and then fil and mil came together but sil came separately as did bil etc. Say ahead it will just be a short visit as your getting yourself into a routine. Try plan it while baby is asleep if you can, that way baby stays sleeping - say you dont want them waking up. Also state if anybody is feeling off not to come and you can rearrange! Also hand washing or have a bottle sanitizer close by, which ever you feel more comfortable asking them to do.
Also say no kissing!
Remember this is all your decision, dont let anybody try to guilt trip you into something your not comfortable with x

You should have people you trust around you the first 8 weeks. If they care they'll stay home if they are ill.

Unfortunately yes. She was barely two weeks old and hospitalised. I’ve been firm with our families since.
If I could go back, I would have been stricter and not just relied on people to use their common sense. Rushing to hospital with a feverish newborn, freshly postpartum, sleep deprived and bleeding while recovering from a tear was no fun!

My parents in law live 400 miles away - I said very clearly that if they got sick, then I’m really sorry but don’t come even though their train/hotel was probably non refundable. Same applied to my family (who live closer). We didn’t have any friends round for the first 2-3 months at all. Just family in no more than pairs.

My MIL. Threatened to kill herself if we didn’t let her, and then we ended up being abused for telling her to wait until she was better… so that took prio over keeping our son safe 🥲

When my little girl was born in 2024, we sent out a little message just saying if you’re poorly please don’t come and just plan another time to visit when I’ll!Xx

Everyone in our families came to see the babies but no one was dumb enough to come whilst poorly.