Long distance drive 🚙

We’re moving to the other side of the country and my girls hate car rides 😩😭 literally over a day drive and we’re gunna have to be stopping so it’ll probably be a 3+ days drive for us and every time we get in the car now I get anxiety and overwhelmed just thinking about it….
My 2yo and 10mo hate to be in their car seats they hate the car and no snacks songs or toys work.
I convinced my husband that my toddler is gunna need shows music and headphones for the trip and I think she’ll be okay BUT my baby is another story idk what to do I just spent a car ride home doing a dog and pony show to get her to stop crying I finally gave up and just sat there hearing her cry the rest of the way home 😓
I’ve tried everything we even changed her car seat someone tell me they went through this and something worked so I can try cause our move is in about a month and at this point imma go crazy 😭😩

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Men gaze?

Anyone else’s husband very vocal about not liking the “plastic” look? Like everytime he sees a girl with lip injections or heavy makeup up he’s just like “ I don’t know how people like that. It’s not attractive to have all that crap going on”. But like all these of models and junk are all plastic 😅 he dosnt do any of that but I know ALOT of men do. Like I believe him but sometimes I wish I could look more like some of them because my lips are thin and after kids my boobs are saggy but he insists that he loves my body the way it is. Idk just thinking

Another toddler keeps hitting my child at a public activity — how should I handle it?

We go to this rhyme time with our kid. There’s a child there who hit my child before. Both of them are two years old, and last time he pushed my kid to the ground. He keeps trying to hit him. His mom does try to hold him back, but today we ran into them again and he hit my child with a book.

I noticed that the mom is trying, but she’s very soft and gentle about it. Every time this happens I get really stressed and I don’t know what to do. I try to keep my child away, but she can’t seem to keep her child far enough from mine.

Honestly, I’m really upset, angry, and tired. I already come to this activity hoping to relax a bit while my child plays, but when things like this happen it just makes me more stressed. If this happened to your child, what would you do? How would you talk to the other mom?

Because I feel like she’s not really warning him or holding him back enough, and this is the third time her child has hit mine.

Self employed husband

Hi ladies. I need advice on my relationship and partnership. My husband is self employed. I left work early this year as life became too hard as his schedule as below never changed it’s been like this. His schedule

8.30am wake up and responds to emails and makes work calls

9.30 he gets ready to leave the house for work. I don’t make him any breakfast on principle as I’m overwhelmed with kids and home and he gets bugged by this because he feels the bare minimum I can do for him as a hard working man is to make sure he’s fed.

All day. No contact from him unless he needs something from me. No calls if kids are unwell. No calls if I’ve said I’m not feeling great today. Nothing. But I’ll get back to back calls from him if he wants to know something with urgency.

After school I pick up the kids, and we’re usually home bound for the rest of the evening.

He pulls up to the drive around 6pm most days. Sits in his car doing more admin and work calls.

He’ll come inside around 7pm. Kids are starting to get ready for bed. He leads them to their rooms and focuses on putting the youngest down. In that time I’m usually downstairs tidying or go out for a supermarket shop.

At 8.30/9 most nights of the week he goes out to catch up with a friend or work related something. Comes home around midnight or later. If not out he watches his TV series. I’ve started to sleep in the big kids room as he is better at settling the baby at night.

Most nights I stay downstairs scrolling on my phone or doing house chores.

We have intimacy only if he initiates. I have lost my spark for anything pleasure related.

I don’t know how to make him realise he’s losing his connection with me. I am just cordial with him for the most days unless I’m really annoyed I stop talking to him for several days. I’ve tried talking to him and explaining, trying to set work switch off boundaries etc. I don’t know if anyone’s been in this position where you just reach a point of not caring to address the problems anymore.

Will he ever come to realise I’ve accepted I am a single married woman?? Will he even care?? His defence ALWAYS is MONEY. If he doesn’t work this hard we won’t be able to sustain the house and cars etc. I MUST add he is the materialistic one in us and always wants to have things slightly better than everyone else.

What’s your advice on how to make my final plea to him.

TV time

Yes it’s not recommended but my little girl is 2 I live alone and use tv time to get housework done. I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for educational shows on YouTube or Disney. My niece is 24 days older than my daughter and watches tv 24/7 can count to 10 and say the alphabet. My daughter can’t do any of that. And I know we shouldn’t compare but it just makes me feel awful

Wotsits

Such a weird and random question but when did everyone start feeding their babies wotsits etc. according to google not advised under 12m

Feel like I hate my husband

Is this me and our relationship has gone south or is tgjs a common thing !
Honestly feel like I hate my husband , we never really argued and now I feel like we always do , I’m fed up of it & don’t want to feel like this any more 🙈