Connection with Baby?

So ever since my daughter was born I’m struggling to make a connection with her and yes I do lover her, I just don’t know what to do to try to connect with her. Does anyone have any ideas????
And i know some people go through this but they don’t wanna say anything because other like to shame them so please be mindful and don’t be rude

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do what you love to do, but include her!! for example i love singing and dancing around my apartment when i clean so i include her. i either baby wear her or i have a bassinet that has the side fold down she likes to lay in it and move around (as shes not quite big enough for the crib) and since the side comes down she can watch me dance around and hears me singing and she smiles ear to ear everytime! and when i need a break from cleaning i pick her up and dance with her in my arms💕

I had a bit of this, when my girl was cluster feeding I felt like all I did was breastfeed her and we had no connection apart from that. I had an absolute meltdown over it to my partner and honestly that reset me, I was exhausted and the birth trauma felt overwhelming to it was just a lot. I don’t have any advice but just be kind to yourself mumma x

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