Regret
Had an interesting chat with my best friend today who’s on the fence about whether she wants to have kids or not
She proceeded to tell me that most of the people she knows with kids have told her they regret having them, wished they’d never had them, or that it “completely ruined their lives”. She said all of her work colleagues with kids repeatedly tell her “don’t do it” and that if they could go back in time they never would have had their children, which kind of surprised me as it’s not an opinion I’ve really heard much myself but she’s saying shes now been lead to believe the majority of people actually regret having their children but don’t admit it, and it’s really put her off and steered her away from thinking she wants to be a mum one day
Made me curious - has anyone here ever felt like that at times? Even on my worst days where the kids have driven me CRAZY I can’t imagine undoing it or wishing to have not had them, but I know everyone’s experience is different so would be really interesting to hear other perspectives!
5 week old no poop
My 5 week old is breastfed about 10 times a day for around half an hour each feed. Usually he poops after every feed, sometimes more, however, since yesterday morning he has not pooed. Should I be worried? He seems like he needs to go but is in discomfort. I’ve tried bicycles, a warm bath, rubbing his tummy etc to try and help but doesn’t seem to help him. Should I contact his gp? Please give advise as he seems in so much discomfort! Thanks!
Need help!
I’m 1 week postpartum and I cry all the time. When the baby cries, I cry even more. When he can’t sleep, I get anxious and start crying too. I feel like I’m having severe baby blues. I’m not able to eat or drink, and I feel so sad. I don’t know why I’m feeling this way.
Will it get better?
I feel afraid, anxious, and overwhelmed. Also, when we hold the baby, he sleeps, but when we put him down, he wakes up, and it makes me so anxious.
Is this normal?
Ferber method
Has anyone tried this? I started tonight and I just can’t wait 5+ minutes, especially with him being in our room.
He goes down fine at night but is up at 4 am every morning, at this point he’s not hungry it’s just habit. I’ve been trying for over an hour now I feel like I’m not getting anywhere, it’s like he’s wide awake wired. He’s 6 months for record.
I end up putting him on boob and putting him in bed with me as I’m just exhausted.
I read about offering water instead at this time to break the cycle, but he still can’t soothe himself back to sleep so it still takes me over an hour to get him back down, at that point he’s basically done a wake window 🥲 please help!
