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Sex after birth

Sooo I’m just looking for some first hand experiences
I had a second degree episiotomy and the idea of sex scares me soo much ! How long did you wait till you had sex again? Did it hurt BAD? Basically I want all the details 😭

Anxiety

Hi guys, I had my little girl last December, my anxiety is just sky high, I'm on sertraline but that doesn't even help at all, I feel like my brain won't ever stop or calm down, like it's going to burst, it won't let me relax, I suppose this isn't a question just a rant, I feel like I can't breathe sometimes :( I can't sleep when I finally get the chance so I basically never sleep either, I feel so unhealthy.. also if anyone relates and wants to be friends let me know on comments or message me 🩷

Wrong or no?

We are first time parents, living in a two bedroom with another couple so our privacy is VERY limited. Is it wrong to be intimate in the bedroom while the 10 month old sleeps? Or is it horrendously disturbing?

When did your kids start calling you “mom” instead of “mama” or “mommy”?

My kid isn’t even 4 and sometimes calls me mom. :( I correct her most the time because she is an actual baby, and she seems so big saying mom

Being pressured on having a second child

Baby girl is only 7 weeks and my MIL is pressuring me to have a second. I’m content with one. We never thought we could have children so it’s amazing to have baby here now. I’m an only child and I turned out okay. There also plays the fact of time and finances. We have dogs and an apartment.

Unsure if I want to BF - Am I selfish?

My second is nearly 4 weeks old and currently EBF. Whilst we are still very much both learning, generally breastfeeding is ‘working’. Ie he’s gaining weight and I’m not generally sore. However I’m really struggling with the amount of time we’re stuck on the sofa 🥲 and finding it increasingly difficult to latch in the night etc. So there are some issues.

I have a toddler who was formula fed after we couldn’t establish breastfeeding fully after being on a triple feeding plan. It killed me last time to throw in the towel after 3 weeks, but we then quickly adapted to formula feeding and it worked really well for our predictable schedule loving family. I feel I have the opportunity this time to BF my second son, but selfishly I’m not sure I want to 😭 other than it being really convenient to not wash/prep bottles, as well as having the ultimate soothing device, I’m not keen on the whole experience and it’s really affecting the time I have with my toddler. I’m also all for nurturing my newborn and that he won’t be this little forever, but that doesn’t make the solo sleepless nights any easier in the moment. And practically, I need to sleep at some point as driving feels unsafe at points!

Anyone else struggled with this? I fear that if I carry on, we’ll soon end up establishing BFing fully and he’ll refuse a bottle and I’ll be stuck. But also really proud we’ve made it work and feel ridiculous throwing away this opportunity when last time it was all I wanted. I’ve also started expressing s little bit with view of my husband being able to offer a bottle for one feed a day eventually. But it takes me A LOT to pump a bottles worth, so there is no time saving, which is my main issue. After one week of expressing several times a day I have enough stashed for 2-3 feeds 🙃

I am so conflicted and ultimately I know it’s my decision. Just wondering if I’m alone in this or if anyone has any experience with this conundrum. Thank you