Are my feelings valid?

So I wonder if this is a generational thing (I’m late 30s) or if it’s a cultural thing (I’m British) but I find it so idiotic and patronising if someone says “your feelings are valid”.

I feel like anyone who says that to me is a knob jockey who lacks the maturity to have a real conversation without empty platitudes.

AITA?

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Your feelings are valid is another way of saying it’s understandable for you to feel that way. What’s wrong with that? lol

does it bother you because it can also mean someone doesn’t feel the same way about the situation as you do but can understand that it’s ok to feel the way you do about it too?

I think you probably find it patronising because it’s a given- regardless of what your feelings are, they are yours, and if you are of sound mind they are of course valid. Nta but I’d pay attention to the tone it’s said in, often people are just trying to validate you by saying that (I’m also British), wouldn’t read into it unless it’s actually said in a sarcastic or patronising tone

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