Health visitor home visit

Just got a letter through saying we have a health visitor home visit around 3/4 weeks before my due date. Didn't have this when I had my son 3.5 years ago? Has anyone else ever had one? What do they generally talk about?
At least it's giving me the kick up the bum to nest and get everything out the loft ready 😂

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we had one for our first and we have one this time, they basically just talk about safe sleep, feeding, give you pamphlets and resources etc xx

I had a letter back in 2021 when I was pregnant however they never actually came lol, only came after I’d had her! I’ve not had a letter this time! Xx

I didnt have that with my son either so its all new to me its like a 15 minute chat but I ended up getting a phone call instead of a visit then when little one is born then they do the face to face and im glad because ive zero energy to clean lol

We’ve had a letter saying they’ll contact me a few weeks after birth to arrange a visit, not for before 🤷🏻‍♀️. Maybe it depends on where you live etc

I had one with my first and have the visit tomorrow for this baby. If I remember last time it was just generic advice given about safe sleep ect x

I had one when I was around 25 weeks, it’s a new thing they do. They just make sure you’re prepared with baby bits, talk to you about safe sleep and other baby stuff xx

I’ve just had mine, she was lovely. Went through sleeping, mental health history, feeding. Just general support questions and ask if we needed help with anything. It went well, she didn’t stay long x

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