Nursery pick up

I always find nursery pick up a really negative experience. My son comes out with his key worker and for example today, she said ‘he had a really good morning but had the ultimate meltdown this afternoon and threw his bunny in the road’. Or she will say ‘he’s been extremely emotional today’ Always with a tone like that’s a bad thing? She says this in front of him and I feel like it’s really negative? I normally just say ‘oh well, lots of big feelings then’ and move on. I get that they have tantrums at this age and he has plenty at home too but why do we need to know about them all as parents and in front of him too? It’s like that part of the day isn’t associated with being ‘good’ if he’s had a ‘meltdown’. He also always comes out with food all over his face from lunch (4 hours ago!) and that really winds me up too - am I just being sensitive about this? 😩

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Money advice

So I love shopping and spoiling my son with clothes etc anything really & I’ll admit I can awful with money. We have been together 10 years and just brought a house (I had some money from family member will)

I want to be able to save but I just can’t like I physically can’t. Where can I start?

Each month I have to just life off my wage from work (I work 21 hrs a week but normally pick up shifts and do like 37/60 hrs a week)

HELP

WFH + Childcare

For those that don’t send their child to nursery or childcare, how do you manage? We don’t want to put our 20 month old in to nursery yet (plus we don’t qualify for free funding nor can we afford nursery fees or other childcare costs anyway).

At the moment, my Mum just retired. I will be starting a new job end of the month that requires 3 days a week in office and my partner just got a new job 2 weeks ago that requires him in office 5 days a week.

When I start my new job, my Mum has agreed to take our daughter Sunday night - Tuesday night so I can go into the office 2 days a week. Not sure how to manage the rest of the week 🥲

Currently I go into the office twice a month. I drop my daughter off to my in laws for 1pm Tuesday and Wednesdays. By the time I get back home its 2pm and Ill work till 6/7. My Mum then had her Thursdays (her day off). And Ill wfh and look after baby girl Mon and Fri. The wfh and looking after baby is not sustainable as I dont get any work done. My new job is a step up in my career and will require a lot more work and responsibility. I’m super grateful for the opportunity but not oblivious to how hard this new change will be.

Any advise?

Does your husband do enough around the house?

Honest answer

Nursery Funding

Hi everyone. I am getting really confused about nursery funding. My husband works part time and I am also working part time. I have been telling my husband to apply for funding as I don’t know much for the last few months but he doesn’t seem to be bothered and every time he comes with some new reason. He said we can’t get free funding for nursery because our earning is more than £16000 a year. Is it true. My baby is already two. Please anyone guide me🙏. Also can someone please tell me the process how can I apply for funding hours??

MIL

So my friends mil is really nasty. She constantly tells her son that he shouldn't be with my friend, told her son not to have another baby with my friend as she is only after the money, told her son my friend is only nice to her face. They didn't go to church on Sunday and the mother phoned her son and said how dare he not go. Bare in mind her son is in his late forties. She is 80 odd. She is very controlling and constantly stabs my friend in the back. What should she do. Any advice welcome.

The mother in law doesn't like cats, my friend absolutely loves them. They won't tell her they got a cat because she will go mad.

I think it's absolutely ridiculous that she is trying to control her son.

Anxious thought

One of my many anxious thoughts but what would you do if your car broke down on a busy road- with a toddler and baby. Who do you get out first?
Would have to be the toddler (nearly 3) first, then baby… else I’d have no hands to unclip the toddler. But then where do you put the toddler.
Please tell me everyone has these scenarios running through their head🥲

I just saw a video of a car broken down on a smart motorway, so they were half in a lane. How do you get your children out then?! I hate that I overthink everything.