No contact from grandparents....
I want to know do y'all think that when your parents don't contact you based on their own assumptions, hurt feelings or lack of respect for your boundaries is like another form of manipulation?
So there's a situation where my mom has not contacted my sister or made an effort to line up the video calls with my niece or nephew since February, which is my niece's birthday. She does this with me to too throughout weeks. I think the longest move on is probably going to come almost a month when she doesn't contact me. This has happened multiple times btw.
At this point I don't think (older gen x & bookers) parents understand that their relationship with their grandchild or grandchildren depends on their relationship with their own child cuz you can't get to the grandchildren and they cant bypass the their parents who's raising them.
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It definitely sounds like a form of manipulation but I'd just plough on and I wouldn't let them in when they do try. They'll regret their actions when their grandchildren have no idea who they are
Some of these grandparents need freaking therapy cuz we are still their kids even tho we are now adult kids with our lives & kids. We already had the burden of carrying our parents feelings & emotions when we was young so I have no choice bt to protect my offsprings from ppl who refuse to grow the f up.
I’m estranged from my parents and if my parents wanted a relationship with my son aka their grandchild; they know exactly what steps they need to take to make that ish happen so I’m not loosing any sleep over “family” that only got that title thru blood bt no actual actions. Some parents are narcissists & just because they are ur parents doesn’t mean u have to entertain their shenanigans. U gotta protect urself from ppl who hurt u or ppl who cause pain. long story is yes I do think parents use their own assumptions, hurt feelings & lack of respect for boundaries as manipulation. I’ll be damned if I let myself get manipulated as a 35 yr old woman so go play in somebody else face
Once I told my mom that relationship are both ways and that she can't expect me to make all the moves to her. That she has to put some effort too. It takes time but fortunately she gets it and makes some effort...
Now mind y'all....on top of all this We are also having our second child in about 4 weeks and we are depending on both our parents to step up when we need to go to the hospital to watch our 18 month old son which also puts a strain on this because we only have so many options.
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