Husband reversing Toilet training efforts

My daughter is almost 3. Ive been trying to toilet train her for the last 6 months. I was going to start her on undies from the beginning but my husband carried on about how we have too much carpet so it would be too difficult. I listened to him for the first 5 months. The past few weeks ive gotten undies and have been using them for her. In the past couple weeks shes come really far. Though when ive come home from work the past 2 weeks and shes been with my husband, shes been wearing a nappy. I've explained to him how important it is to try to wear undies as this has been working for us but no matter what I say, he won't listen. And he said shes wet through her pants a few times and ive said thats part of toilet training (yes we do have the undies with the padding so it doesn't soak through as much). He said shes been doing better with her nappies than undies when he has her but I dont know what to believe. I always take her to the toilet when im home. He rarely takes the initiative. Im worried hes just being lazy. What would you guys do or say?

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I mean it definitely sounds like lazy parenting. Like he much rather not potty train her then have to clean up messes but like if he did what you are doing she will leaden faster and not have accidents… but unfortunately if he doesn’t listen to you idk if there’s much you can do… you are supposed to be a team and he’s actively working against teamwork just cuz he’s lazy… maybe give him information about potty training- will he read it?

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