Who's the YES parent

My 4 year old always says "daddy always says yes and mummy always says no"
Im the default parent.
My partner always wants to be the fun one giving sweets and would buy her a new toy daily if i let him.
If she asks him for something he says yes and alot the time I have to then say no!
Ive spoken to him and told him its not good in the long run and he will agree but come his day off it happens all over again🤦🏽‍♀️
Our 4 year old is 100% closer to me and I think my partner is almost trying to but her affection!!!

in our community

Would you be mad?

My nephew is 15 we are really close. He got a 47% on a test so I made him a shirt that said four seven instead of six seven. My sister got really mad and I wasn’t expecting it. He thought it was funny and he knows he needs to work hard to get his grade up.

I reported a teacher at my son’s elementary school, am I wrong?

This lady was driving erratically in the parking, a few times I saw her going the wrong way in a one way lane driving fast to get out before the parents started coming in the lot. Then another time I was walking across the lot and she drove very fast around another parent driving slowly and almost hit me as I crossed! She always speeds on the street to the school even in the school zone hours, I’ve drove behind her many times going to the school. I feel like I was in the right to report her as it’s an elementary school there’s tiny kids that don’t yet know how dangerous the streets can be. My husband however seems to hold some kind of grudge against me for doing it cause he makes comments about it a lot as if I’m a snitch or in the wrong! Was I wrong for reporting her!??

Need advice

my husband is a different ethnicity to me and his mother doesn’t speak great English and none of the older members of his further family (aunts etc) speak any English. We stay with my MIL.
They are all constantly taking my daughter out of my hands (3 months old) and kissing her etc and it is making me so upset. My husband isn’t usually around to say anything and I can’t say anything as they don’t understand me. They seem to be very judgmental and have a very specific way about doing things (cultural) with babies and don’t understand not kissing them or tbh seem to understand basic respect for the baby’s mother. I feel like I have no choice but to allow them to take her out my hands as they can’t understand me anyway and I don’t like causing issues.
My husband has spoke to his mother about it but she tells him o she doesn’t do it🤣 and he is never there - as he works a lot- to tell the extend family when they are round (which is regularly) to not do it.
I am at a loss. I really don’t know how to stand up for my daughter and my self when they can’t understand me anyway? What am I supposed to do?
They literally just take her out of my arms I can’t hold her tight because I don’t want to hurt her and they can’t understand if I say no lol I just idk what to do. And the kissing too?
Help please

No contact from grandparents....

I want to know do y'all think that when your parents don't contact you based on their own assumptions, hurt feelings or lack of respect for your boundaries is like another form of manipulation?

So there's a situation where my mom has not contacted my sister or made an effort to line up the video calls with my niece or nephew since February, which is my niece's birthday. She does this with me to too throughout weeks. I think the longest move on is probably going to come almost a month when she doesn't contact me. This has happened multiple times btw.

At this point I don't think (older gen x & bookers) parents understand that their relationship with their grandchild or grandchildren depends on their relationship with their own child cuz you can't get to the grandchildren and they cant bypass the their parents who's raising them.

cleaning toys like this ?

what are we using to clean toys like this ?

Bit of a rant

My partner hasn’t been the greatest since our baby came he was good the first 2 weeks but after that I’ve done everything he’s looked after her twice for an hour each time but other than that and a couple of nappy changes I do everything.
We’ve just had an argument because he says I spend too much money on our daughter. I bought her the next size up in clothes one month and it was around £100 I personally didn’t think that was too much but he does. I bought her some sensory bits and stuff and he says this month we absolutely have to tighten up on things and only buy essentials I said fine and he’s made an argument out of it. Our daughter is 5 months old.
He spends £500+ on beer a month he drinks at home every night and he goes to the pub every week to play pool plus a few other times during the month. I don’t do anything unless it’s a free baby class. His excuse for drinking is that he’s been told by a professional that if he quits drinking he could have seizures but he won’t even cut down and I can guarantee he will still go to pool every week this month even though he’s told me we need to only buy essentials and be strict. I’m honestly at a loss of what to do. I don’t want to be with him anymore he doesn’t want to change for us and he won’t he’s drunk every single night and does nothing around the house or for our baby or me. I can’t leave him I need him for money reasons I just couldn’t afford anything without his wage.
We move house in a couple of months and I just wish I had the courage to just leave him but I can’t.
Not much else to say and this is just really a rant. I’m just so sad at the minute and needed to get it out.