What would you personally do if your husband REFUSED to have sex with you every time you guys got pregnant?

I am talking about no sex at all for 9 months plus 3 months after giving birth.

BUT he still expects you to please him

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

And....every time he wants you to please him he asks you to tell him stories of you guys having a threesome with a made up character.....also asks to watch porn because it's "fun"

What’s his reason for not having sex? Is your husband saved or an unbeliever? Has he always been the type to be one-sided or selfish when it comes to sex or is this new behavior? I’m assuming this is your first pregnancy?

Could he be worried about harming you or the baby? I know a lot of men who are very scared of the idea of having sex with their pregnant wife as they feel it's not "safe". But they just don't understand there are safer ways to do that without any harm to the mum or baby. It does help if they are shown how the womb and sex/reproductive organs are during pregnancy to make them clearly understand what's going on in there.

There's scripture that says that the only time you should keep sex from eachother if you're married is because you've both agreed to pray about something instead... (1 Cor. 7:3-5.) And that even says for a limited time. If he's a believer, you should tell him this. Sex is made to bring you guys closer together.

If he isn't, then you need to follow the Lord's conviction on this. I know we are supposed to submit, but any time he asks you to do something God wouldn't, you submit to God first. I don't think God would have you watch porn or fantasize about being unfaithful to a 3rd person together... I don't know what your situation is, but if you feel you're in an unsafe situation to not be able to bring this up to him and it go well, please confide in another believer that you trust that may be able to help you.

I wouldn't participate in such degrading things.

in our community

Texting buddy

I am so bored!!! If anybody’s up to texting lmk 😊

I’m sharing my story hoping to find another momma to talk to about things….

Before I got pregnant I found out that my (now) fiancé was messaging other girls and flirting with them. I have been in many HORRIBLE relationships so honestly the messaging didn’t really bother me much. We talked about it and moved on. At least that’s what I thought. We moved into a place together late July 2025, found out I was pregnant early August and by the end of September I had found out he went and slept with some chick and paid her $250 to finish in her. He did this before work one day which happened to be just hours after we had to go to the ER vet to have one of our guinea pigs put down… the only reason I found out either time was because I had went through his phone since we made an agreement in our relationship that we were allowed to at anytime (solely said this to give each other peace of mind). At this point I almost left him but he realized he has a problem and found a therapist that day to start going to so I stayed by his side. Well, it went from messaging girls from tinder to going through Reddit (I swear it’s the worst thing ever made at this point). It’s an official thing that he is a sex addict and him and his therapist have been working on things. This morning he calls me on his way to work while I’m exactly 2 weeks postpartum and primarily taking care of our daughter (because he works 10 hour shifts 5 days a week and an 8 hour shift on Saturdays with a little over an hour for driving one way, so he’s gone 12.5 hours a day) and tells me that he had confessed to someone he still has sexual desires for them but is not doing anything about it, granted this is progress with him being open about it but it doesn’t make it any easier to hear. I guess the girl screenshotted it so now I get to play the game of “who is going to send me a “hey girly” text”…… part of me just wants to ask him who it was but another part of me doesn’t want to know. I feel so much resentment towards him and I want to say I wish I never got with him in the first place but then I wouldn’t have my amazing baby girl and I genuinely can’t imagine my life without her. I’m just all over the place with thoughts so if anyone has dealt with anything similar to my situation or is just open to being support I would be beyond grateful to have someone to talk to.

Texting buddies or group chat?

SAHM, ready to be social again! Let’s be friends!

Do you use reddit?

I use to use reddit a long time ago and then stopped because a lot of the commenters were either trolls or very determined to be mean to the original posters. One of them even commented "I have been watching you." And saying how they have been silently stalking my profile for a long time. Wtf. I am at a point where I think reddit is filled with people who are not who they say they are. They are either bots, trolls or angry teenagers. And some of them liked to twist peoples words or gaslight the crap out of OPs. I have witnessed this happen to other OPs too. Not just to myself.

Nursery Gifts

Our little one is moving from the baby to tots room in the next couple of weeks (sob!) Just wondered what to do, if anything, gift wise for his team in addition to a card? He has a key worker but tbh there are a few different team members he loves so don’t just want to get one person something. Obviously don’t have a massive budget atm either.

Just wondered what others have done?xx