I’m sharing my story hoping to find another momma to talk to about things….
Before I got pregnant I found out that my (now) fiancé was messaging other girls and flirting with them. I have been in many HORRIBLE relationships so honestly the messaging didn’t really bother me much. We talked about it and moved on. At least that’s what I thought. We moved into a place together late July 2025, found out I was pregnant early August and by the end of September I had found out he went and slept with some chick and paid her $250 to finish in her. He did this before work one day which happened to be just hours after we had to go to the ER vet to have one of our guinea pigs put down… the only reason I found out either time was because I had went through his phone since we made an agreement in our relationship that we were allowed to at anytime (solely said this to give each other peace of mind). At this point I almost left him but he realized he has a problem and found a therapist that day to start going to so I stayed by his side. Well, it went from messaging girls from tinder to going through Reddit (I swear it’s the worst thing ever made at this point). It’s an official thing that he is a sex addict and him and his therapist have been working on things. This morning he calls me on his way to work while I’m exactly 2 weeks postpartum and primarily taking care of our daughter (because he works 10 hour shifts 5 days a week and an 8 hour shift on Saturdays with a little over an hour for driving one way, so he’s gone 12.5 hours a day) and tells me that he had confessed to someone he still has sexual desires for them but is not doing anything about it, granted this is progress with him being open about it but it doesn’t make it any easier to hear. I guess the girl screenshotted it so now I get to play the game of “who is going to send me a “hey girly” text”…… part of me just wants to ask him who it was but another part of me doesn’t want to know. I feel so much resentment towards him and I want to say I wish I never got with him in the first place but then I wouldn’t have my amazing baby girl and I genuinely can’t imagine my life without her. I’m just all over the place with thoughts so if anyone has dealt with anything similar to my situation or is just open to being support I would be beyond grateful to have someone to talk to.
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