Husband working away with a baby that doesn’t sleep!

I am really struggling as I have a 19 month old and a newborn, both who wake frequently throughout the night.

My 6 week old obviously wakes every 1-2 hours to BF and my toddler wakes at least 3 times a night and needs resettling. It takes me about 30 minutes to resettle him each time.

How can I cope with this on my own when my partner is away? My partner is working away for a week and we do not live near any family as we move around frequently due to his work, currently we are temporarily living away from our hometown. I can’t nap in the day as I need to do chores and they are rarely napping at the same time anyway.

I am really struggling to function and it’s only day 4 of no sleep (out of 7).

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Hey lovely I lived this when I was a single parent in a marriage and nobody knew.

Please leave the housework, and focus on the two tiny humans to keep alive. When he gets back you can figure out how to share childcare and who does what to get back on top of things. Don't try and do everything, that's what will break you.

Set the expectations that he'll need to help with kids bath and bed so you can sleep in the evening well before the wakes up begin and have a lie in at the weekend when he's back.

Don't leave the house unless you expressly need to and just do stuff that conserves energy..it's about survival not thriving right now.

Sending all the empathy and caffeine..it's so tough but you're more than halfway through. Almost there x

Alternatively if money allows get a one off cleaner to come in and take it off your plate entirely.
If he goes away again have money put aside if a couple of cleans so that's off your plate over the weak.

If budget allows, get a nighttime doula.

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For those who have an awful sleeper…

How many goods nights of sleep on average does your toddler or baby give you?

Please only answer if you would class your baby as being an awful sleeper. Including, frequent wake ups, long re-settling times, taking ages to go to sleep/sleep refusal, low sleep needs (sleeps significantly less than recommended for their age).

My baby has always been a bad sleeper and I would say that I only get 1-2 good nights a week (if lucky). I have already had to resettle him twice since he went to bed at 7:30 😭