I have been feeling like my life has changed after having a baby but same doesn’t go for my husband.. i had my parents to help with my baby because i broke my leg & was immobile for 2 months now im able to walk but still restricted.. can’t hold my baby because its scary.. we just had the biggest fight & i told him lets separate so he was like okay i will put in a request & started blackmailing me because im on dependent visa.. i do want to come in good terms with him & also make him understand what im going through how do i do it?
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That is the way it is as a woman our life's change dramatically when we have kids and unfortunately most men don't change their life to help. Its the man that has to adjust his life to put his wife and children first and that if you have a good man. Which is rare. The fact that he went straight to blackmailing you tells you everything you need to know. There is no making him understand anything. He is showing you he doesn't care what happens to you.

I was just telling my husband yesterday, we have two kids and it’s time for him to get into dad mode instead of bachelor mode. Spend a grand on the new switch 2 but God forbid we need groceries or the kids need clothes. Asking him to order a pack of onesies for our newborn is like pulling teeth😭. He does help me a lot though. He’s a great dad, it’s just money that a problem