I am losing my patience

My bf expects me to be the only one to make cheeses to myself and I am working on my self but when I told him the changes I would like to see in him he said he’s not going to change for anyone and now I feel like nothing is ever going to be eaugh for he diregrades what I do to take care of our son and then complains about what I don’t get around to do and acts like he is the only one doing and taking care of things

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Same thing over here, they thing because they're out all day and working that we sre sat at home doing nothing

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Honestly fuck men’s opinion. I had it with men.. sitting there thinking thier gods gift of holy grail… then expecting the women to put in every single work.. when we already got two kids .. up all night .. cooking all the meals … cleaning the house .. super burnt out don’t have enough help as it is … I would like to see man step into our shoes for one day with out being in survival mode .. because man I get tired of seeing shit like this coming out of man’s mouth

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For one, it’s not fair for you to have to change anything and him change nothing. I’ve had to change so many things about me I don’t even know who I am anymore. I’m currently going thru the same thing with mine but still working on changing some.

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Now I love my partner I really do but my god he is doing my head in! So recently he has this thing where he keeps accidentally taking things I need to work with him, so far 3 times he’s taken my car keys with him so he’s had to come all the way back to drop them off so he ends up late for work (20 minute drive each way) but today he took my phone to work with him, after he left I was trying to find it as he messages me when he gets to work so I know he gets there all good but I couldn’t find it anywhere and I don’t have a spare working phone or a landline to be able to call it or contact someone to call it for me to find it, about 40 minutes after he left he turns up with it! But he’s just so unorganised when getting sorted for work and his things are just everywhere! I’m just ranting really but has anyone else had this with their partners?

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Feeling so down

I’m a single mom, my son is 1.5 yo. I left BD when I was like 3 months pregnant so I pretty much been on my own with this over 2 years now. No family, friends faded away one by one.no partner. Just me. Isolation is killer.

I have been ugly crying for weeks, so angry I can’t control it and I yell at my son for the smallest things then I feel like crap.

Last night sent me in a downhill spiral. A social media influencer just had her 2nd baby, and had an at home wedding. It was so sweet, I hate being jealous truly but after seeing that I can’t keep it together, because I will never have that. She’s so pretty, she has a nice house, family, friends, 2 ,children with a good man. Ya I’m sure it’s not as perfect as it looks and they have issues too. But they have all that . Ya. I guess I am jealous. I don’t have a scale that tips, I have my son of course the only thing I’m thankful for in life but now I have to watch him live the lonely life I lived, and that’s my own personal torture and guilt.


Idk. I just can’t go on anymore, sometimes I feel he is better off without me. I fight so hard to keep the little we have, down to our tiny as apt. By the time I’m finished with work and school I no longer have strangers to be there for him….

Any motivation? Is there really a light at this end of this tunnel. I am so fat and ugky I’m so repulsed by myself, I don’t even want a man anywhere near me out of shame.

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Is your child’s school allowed to administer Tylenol/calpol/other meds to your children if they believe they need them?

Didn’t even think this was a thing until I read some comments on another post.
My child is not school aged yet but as someone who does not medicate, I would lose my mind if I find out they were given something without my consent.

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I am losing my patience

My bf expects me to be the only one to make cheeses to myself and I am working on my self but when I told him the changes I would like to see in him he said he’s not going to change for anyone and now I feel like nothing is ever going to be eaugh for he diregrades what I do to take care of our son and then complains about what I don’t get around to do and acts like he is the only one doing and taking care of things

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Am I wrong for not having my hopes up?

Hey! So wanna know if I'm being to harsh on my hubby.

I asked him to plan my first mother's day and im worried that it'll be like most of the things he plans, my big 30 was going and getting apple cider and involved a fight with my mother, my bday and christmas gifts have slowly evolved from new bedding to cheap meijer gifts.

Ive talked to him in the past about it (ex: im allergic to the jewelry at meijers still get a pair of earrings from there) and he tries to do better but definitely not what I feel it should be after 10 years of marriage

I don't have high hopes for mothers day and im not if im just being pessimistic about or if im in the right

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Am I wrong for only being attracted to my partner when he’s objectively doing *well*?

Let me start by saying our relationship has been quite rocky and he’s done a lot of things wrong. I left him multiple times but we’re trying again cuz we’ve got a 1 year old together. We haven’t lived together in almost a full year. Currently he’s on a sober streak and seemingly doing well. My question is am I wrong for not feeling attracted or wanting to be intimate when he’s spent all of his money on bs and can’t afford his responsibilities, if he’s overly complaining about his job and other stuff going on, etc? It just feels very weak to me and I don’t like weak men. If he’s not completely on top of his shit I have very little desire to be with him. Like for instance this man (away for work rn) works 10hr blue collar days okayyy he’s tired I get it but he comes home blows $300 gambling calls me and whines needing to borrow money and asks me KNOWING I DON’T WORK!, whines about how tired he is, and how needy he is and wants to do phone sex but all I can think about is what a little bitch he’s been. Am I expecting too much😩

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