Am I wrong for only being attracted to my partner when he’s objectively doing well?

Let me start by saying our relationship has been quite rocky and he’s done a lot of things wrong. I left him multiple times but we’re trying again cuz we’ve got a 1 year old together. We haven’t lived together in almost a full year. Currently he’s on a sober streak and seemingly doing well. My question is am I wrong for not feeling attracted or wanting to be intimate when he’s spent all of his money on bs and can’t afford his responsibilities, if he’s overly complaining about his job and other stuff going on, etc? It just feels very weak to me and I don’t like weak men. If he’s not completely on top of his shit I have very little desire to be with him. Like for instance this man (away for work rn) works 10hr blue collar days okayyy he’s tired I get it but he comes home blows $300 gambling calls me and whines needing to borrow money and asks me KNOWING I DON’T WORK!, whines about how tired he is, and how needy he is and wants to do phone sex but all I can think about is what a little bitch he’s been. Am I expecting too much😩

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I’m not okay!!!

A month ago my man had a stroke. I am overwhelmed and fed up by taking care of him and the 2 kids all on my own. He won’t let me have family over so I can have help. I don’t know if I can handle this. Am I a bad person?

Is it time to break up?

I've been with my partner for just under 2 years and we have a 10 month old baby. We're both military and he's been away for 3 months but been back home a week. The time he was away I didn't miss him, didn't really think about him and I just enjoyed life with our baby.

Since he's been back I've just felt unable to rebuild that connection with him. He's pretty lazy and won't do anything I ask, I'm working and he's on annual leave for a few months. I'll ask him to do simple tasks whilst I'm at work like turning the washing machine on, I'll fill it before work so all he has to do is press start and he 'forgets'.

He is good with our baby, he does every bedtime, stays up with him if I have work the next day etc but I don't feel a connection with him

Without sounding harsh it's like he lacks common sense. He asks where the baby bottles are although they've been in the same place for 6 months, we have a tommee tippee travel blind and he put it up wrong as in he put the blind over the net curtain and ripped the net curtain down

I can say something to him and he just doesn't listen

Our baby has been unwell this week so they haven't been at nursery and he's been looking after him. I come home and there's meds everywhere and he's just sat on his computer or watching TV whilst the baby plays on their own

I honestly think I'm just mentally done with parenting him and our baby

Any thoughts or suggestions?

I hate my baby daddy

Was a little late to cleaning today because I’m 4-5 fucking weeks pregnant and I decided to take a shower. Somthing thats literally impossible with a toddler. I managed to get a little done but it wasn’t perfect. Sure. I decide to take my 2 year old for a walk and we notice her dad is home. At first I was going to let her walk and take her to the park but she missed her dad today so I decided to let her see him. Her dad gestures to the top of her head that has a bandaid (she likes to play with them, she’s 2). He’s visibly annoyed and he shuts his car off. He tells me to go back to the apartment (no hello or anything while my daughter is really happy to see him) and I say I was taking her to the park. Usually my daughter likes to walk around and play and it gets her energy out and helps her to sleep. He wants her to immediately go to the park and doesn’t let her explore even a little bit. When we get there, she’s barely there 10 minutes before hes telling us to go home. He tells me not to play a game with her (i tickle her back while singing the itsy bitsy spider) and he yells at our daughter to climb the stairs to our apartment. She starts crying and is upset, so I put her to sleep. He then starts cleaning and is making a lot of noise. Obviously he’s irritated. He comes into the room and says he’s throwing away everything he sees, and he throws away some of my things and a lot of my daughters toys. I’m in the middle of putting my daughter to sleep, but he tells me “if I want anything I better get it from him before he throws it away”. Mind you, my child is on top of me taking her first nap of the day. I’m so upset, I’m trying not to cry too loud but I’m so sick of this shit. Literally from the minute he saw me and my daughter he was annoyed. I know I’m not doing my best but this pregnancy on top of having a toddler is draining. I hate this. I dont know why I wanted a second kid with him

Potty training?

My boy is only 11 months old but when is the best time to start potty training? My daughter was potty trained just before she turned 3 but want my boy to be done by 2 if not earlier. When would you recommend starting? I personally don’t believe in waiting till they are ready as I think it’s a basic life skill they need and eg using knifes and fork also children with disabilities can’t let you know when the are ready ect so I feel like I don’t believe in waiting till they are ready xx

Is your child’s school allowed to administer Tylenol/calpol/other meds to your children if they believe they need them?

Didn’t even think this was a thing until I read some comments on another post.
My child is not school aged yet but as someone who does not medicate, I would lose my mind if I find out they were given something without my consent.

Is it time to be a single mom?

Ok so recently me and my child’s father got back in contact after he said he broke his phone, not important right now.
However, I work night shift at a children’s hospital, full time at that and when I get home or even a day off, I’m sleeping that whole day.
So yesterday I wasn’t able to text him because I was sleep most of the day and when I did go out to the store and back home, I fell right back to sleep.
In his eyes, I’m doing something I’m not supposed to and he’s practically threatening to show up to my moms house and cause trouble because I can’t give him attention when he wants it and that is almost all the time.
I’m scared to even tell him how I feel because I don’t want to stress myself out to the point where I lose my baby and then lose my mind as well.
What do I do?

Am I wrong for only being attracted to my partner when he’s objectively doing *well*?

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