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My Mother In Law Said What?!

About BOTH inlaws, not just the MIL..

I’m needing some advice on how to go about this.. let’s get into it.

Found out I was pregnant last year in June. Had my baby in February, during my whole pregnancy, NOBODY texted me, and I mean that, UNLESS my husband wasn’t answering them, then there would be a message on mine, ONLY asking if my man is ooay/is he working/is he this or that. 1. He’s 21, he can full tell you. 2. Just point nobody texted about my pregnancy, nobody even congratulated us!! Like WHAT?! Anyways. Come to baby being born. EVERYONE from both sides IMMEDIATE family were invited to the hospital the day after as I had extreme complications. FIL came down to get his equinox bc we are 2 hrs away from home and I specifically need our car and my husband truck wouldn’t make it that far right now. They came down, saw the baby, my MIL REFUSED to come down bc of the drive even tho we had a hotel specifically for HER bc we knew this would happen. FIL ended up using it don’t didn’t go to waste.. but she then ended up deciding on her own that she would wait until the day we got home, now specifically I already said I didn’t want to see anyone for the first 6 weeks as I was healing/navigating breastfeeding/little sleep/addjusting not only being a sahm to one but now 2! 2 weeks into his life, we are already getitng cussed out and demanded to by his mom. We tried explaining how we felt and why, and it was literally called bullshit(by his dad), I haven’t talked to them since then bc wym I just gave birth and how I feel it BULLSHIT? Literally leave me alone. Fast forward 3 week, we got tired of having our phone blow up so we saw them ONE time, and again still didn’t want to see anyone for 6 weeks bc of healing, and some ppl, ITS LONGER, so by 5 weeks, we get a text..

FIL is so tired of me that he claims I won and get to keep my husband and my son all to myself, I just gave birth.. yall did literally nothing, not even a text, he took my husband truck back(it was fils, so he took it back), 2 days later he texts my husband asking if he wanted to buy the truck, my husband said yes so it’s now HIS. Title and all. So in that text, we got the truck taken, his dad owns the house to where we rent from him, he’s kicking us out and selling the house in August.. this is the first time he’s ever said something considering he was trying to get us to buy it right before I gave birth. And now that are both in no contact WITH ME. His mom told us that I shouldn’t be keeping my son away j bc I gave birth bc it’s “not that serious” meanwhile I had my first EVER seizure right before I got induced, had to be on mag for 2 days, I couldn’t walk, I couldn’t go to the bathroom, I couldn’t do anything, the day after labor, was still in a hospital bed and that’s when they first got mad they couldn’t come the first day bc “that’s what they did”, even tho I couldn’t shower, I haven’t slept, and still couldn’t even walk!.. now to mention my other son, he’s 3, and I had him from a previous relationship, and they have made it known he is NOT their grandson, yet my husband and I are married.. husband has an older brother’s ther who unfortunately passed away a few years ago, and it was the same situation, the older brother was not the son of myFIL but then, he was extremely accepted to where my ow husband never got talked to by anyone bc he wasn’t the older brother.

I’m really not in the mood to try to keep a relationship with them, I’m not in the mood to try to rekindle things when I don’t believe I did anything wrong, I chose how I wanted after labor to go, EVERYONE had the same option to come and see him, and just bc they’ve only seen us one time is 5 weeks, we got the truck taken, getting kicked out, and no contact, ONLY to me. If I am wrong, say something and I will re evaluate my brain, however it was a simple choice for MY birth.. therefore I don’t believe I was wrong, and I feel how I’d like to communicate to them(little to very much none at all), isn’t putting me in the wrong either.