Anxiety

I feel like such a shit person, I had my baby last week after a fairly traumatic birth - I’m so in love with him but also I’ve been feeling really down and irritable since we’ve been home. My partners so supportive which makes me feel worse! We’ve had endless visitors and tomorrow my partners sisters coming down from a few hours away for the day she’s really full on at the best of times and obviously she’s going to be so excited to meet him etc and will love him - I’m just struggling with people having him etc at the moment and I feel terrible for it! I’m so overwhelmed I’m freaking out about them coming here and just taking over with him 😢 has anyone else been feeling like this? Am I being awful 🥺

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What you’re feeling is completely normal and it sounds like you just need a few days just the 3 of you to soak everything in. Can you delay your sister in law coming down and any other visitors and rearrange till next weekend? You’re not a shit person, just a woman who’s just given birth and needs some time to herself with her little family. People will understand, and if they don’t they’re not worth it. Xx

I had my boy dec 24 but within a week of me having him had everyone and their dog over and honestly I wished I had opened my gob and said no please leave us alone! I would give anything to have that time back so if you dont want people there then you say so beaut you are healing, you will never get this time back and your LO will never be this little again, stay in your bubble if thats what you want ❤️ congratulations hun x

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