My boyfriend doesn’t like my mums new partner
My boyfriend doesn’t like my mums new partner (we live at my mums) which means he will not let my mum take my son out if she is with him, this obviously makes it hard for me because my mum is my only support. I have tried talking to my partner but he’s very stubborn and says if I need a break he will have our son (which he will) but my mum gets “upset” by this. However, when she is away from her partner she pays little to no interest in my son, has hardly even taken him out as she said it was boring and gives me little help wether her partner is in the house or not as she claims she is “not allowed”. But the fact is is that she is allowed but chooses not to as she cannot do things with my son, with her partner. Which is my partners point too that just because she can’t have him when her partner is around, doesn’t mean she can’t have him atall. I’m just looking for abit of support or reassurance really, I’m stuck in the middle. I’ve said to my mum this is our son and if he doesn’t like her new partner there is nothing I can do.
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At this point its about the safety and wellbeing of your child. If dads spidey sense are going off…. enough said. Partner is new and u dont know him. And mom acting a bit funny. If u ask me a grandmother should understand tryimg to protect a kid until everyone feels more comfortable with the partner. The partner is new.
Yeah agree with the point above if the dad doesn’t feel a hundred percent about the new partner then I think you should respect that because if it was the other way around you would want him to respect how you would feel about someone you hardly know around your child. And then the fact your mum doesn’t want to be around your child without her partner because it’s boring is a bit shitty tbh there’s so much she can do as grandma and it sounds like she’s not helping herself in this situation because she’s not getting her way.
Yes that point dad is willing to help out when you need a break. He’s not just saying no mum can’t help and I won’t help either so trust in his point of view. If mum is all for only posting on social media, playing the role and being involved when it suits her tbh I think you need to be having a serious conversation with her.
I would agree with dad if dad thinks somethings wrong then there’s something wrong just like you said in a comment you wouldn’t want him bringing your son around someone that you didn’t think was safe
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