Should trans people have to disclose they are trans to potential partners/dates from the start?

And should it be classed SA if they sleep with someone without informing them, and this person wasn’t okay with it?

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It should not have to be disclosed immediately… we have to gauge if you are even a safe person before disclosing. But if it gets to the point of having sex the discussion should be had prior to sex.

I have a question for the people who think it should be disclosed from the start, are you wanting to just simply be told they're trans or are you expecting details immediately? I've always wondered how much information people are expecting when they say they want to know from the start

This is a tricky one for me to answer. I don't feel like they should have to disclose from the start but for me personally if I found out way later then I would feel like it was something they'd hidden from me and I'm not sure how I would feel about that.

To answer ginger although I'm not a straight forward disclose from the start vote, for me it would just be about knowing and understanding them as a person, I wouldn't be expecting details immediately unless it was something they wanted to share or were happy opening up about.

I do also totally understand though the need for safety and understanding in opening up because sadly there are a lot of vile people in the world. I have a friend in America literally feared for her life on more than one occasion and suffered violence and discrimination and yeah some of her stories make me feel ill for her. The world definitely needs more kindness and understanding.

Doesn’t have to be right away- but I believe it should be disclosed before any type of physical activity starts (including kissing)

Like everyone else is saying it should be disclosed before sex, but not immediately upon meeting/talking to someone. Especially right now when trans people are being hate crimed and murdered just for existing. It's too dangerous to just tell people, they have to sus out the situation.
And I don't consider it sa if they don't tell someone... The other person is consenting and assuming this trans person has had surgery, theres literally nothing to be upset about. At that point its more than likely transphobia than anything else. And if they hadn't had the surgery then the other person can obviously withdrawal consent before ever actually doing anything. As long as consent is respected I don't see anything wrong with it. Although I don't think that's a safe situation for trans people because there have been many cases of trans people being murdered in these situations. So I do think it's best to tell someone before sex, but it's not sa if they don't.

Legally in the UK it has to be mentioned from the start

in our community

UMM HELLO ?!

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Baby dad called..

So i spent the majority of my pregnancy alone and even gave birth completely alone. my baby dad abandoned me and my son and even blocked my number and my social accounts. my son is now three months old and he recently called me “accidentally” and asked about our son. i gave him some information but not much. i feel so full of anger but honestly i feel like i am still in love with him. he’s not on the birth certificate and our son has my last name. i genuinely never expected this man to crawl out from hiding, but now that he has i have been overthinking and just a fucking mess. my baby dad has not reached out since but he has unblocked my socials..part of me wants to reach out more and try to make things work but the relationship became incredibly toxic during my pregnancy. i just want to do right by my son but i feel incredibly torn, should i just leave this man alone or try to fix our broken home? or at the very least try coparenting? i have been so exhausted as everything has been on me since we broke up.

I hate how my boyfriend acts

I do. I love him but I hate how he acts. It’s like he cant be honest with me in the moment & then blows up later. I don’t think I can do this for much longer. I hate it. Advice?

What do I do?

I broke up with bf before the baby was born. He never wanted the baby and tried to manipulate me into having an abortion and was very hit and miss with being present up to birth. This didn't bother me but he went around telling everyone I ruined his perfect family and ignore his messages. The only time he messaged me while pregnant was to say how much he loved me and wanted to get back together. This turned into harassment which went as far as messaging my mum and sister who's only 12 sying i'm hormonal and don't know what i'm talking about. He never once asked about his child, if he did I would answer. Since the baby was born he's had minimal contact with the baby and barely asks how he's doing. He hasn't contributed to anything. I've brought everything, gone to all the lessons etc while he hasn't done anything. I just feel at ends wit that i,m getting hammered on social media by his friends and family about how i'm a bad mum for taking away access to his son which I haven't done and how they will make sure he knows what I did when he grows up. It's constant back a forth he says I'm keeping him away from his son but he posts online that he wouldn't be suprised if it was someone elses baby and how he wants to move away but he can't do that anymore because the baby holds him back.

He messages me the week he's nearby and says I'm coming to see him in the next few days when can I come round. I feeling like i'm being made a fool because he knows I won't fight back and I'll give him visitation because I want them to at least tey and have bond.

On top of him doing all this he's trying to start a relationship with someone with children. I feel awful saying this but what makes her children better than the one he's got and has abandened.

I just don't know what to do anymore. Going to court seems extreme but what else can I do?

Side hustles for single mom

No childcare, No family, Sahm trying to leave abuse. Please recommend any side hustle ideas where I can bring my kids to work or something.

Amazon flex, instacart, doordash, uber eats all waitlisted me, Im applying for alot of remote jobs and planning to try to sell on offerup.