Nursery experiences

Hey! Would anyone mind sharing their experiences on how your nursery is? I can’t work out if what I’m experiencing is normal.

My daughter started early March, and loves everyone there, settled in really quickly, especially as she’s very shy with people usually. Whilst they’re decently on it with updates on nappy changes / meals etc on the app, we get almost no picture updates of her. We’ve had 2 in 2 months.

Not only that, but she’s due to move up to the next room from Monday and we’ve had no communication about it, if there’s any differences etc. We’ve had no reviews with them since she joined to find out how she’s getting on (bar a quick 2 min update at pick up).

I appreciate their most important job is looking after the children rather than taking photos etc. but it just doesn’t feel 100%. Is this normal and I’m just a psycho? 🤣

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Ours only shares naps and meals on the app. They also do a daily update, usually with a picture but sometimes not.
I'm pretty busy at work so only really check it once a day so don't think about it too much.
My 3 year old is in the pre-school room and I don't get any personal updates just a general update with group photos so just happy for a personal note for my 1 year old.
We've had a couple of written reports and they offer to have meetings but haven't had any concerns so we haven't booked any yet.
Probably a good idea to email them regarding the room move though. They won't know you're having these concerns if you don't let them know.

Do you get updated on her learning journey through an app? I'd say that's the most important part, and what Care Inspectorate would look at if they had an inspection. They should have some sort of transition form from one room to another, and you should be able to ask for a copy of it if you wanted it. Anything else is mostly to keep parents happy, and as a practitioner it's another task to add to a heavy workload, but as a parent I love seeing what my boy has been up to at the end of the day or the week.

If your nursery asks for feedback every now and then, that'd be a great time to mention what you'd like to see improvement on, but if you're not sure, I'd send them an email. They might not be able to change anything, but they should explain why they do things the way they do them.

And I would definitely ask to have a quick chat with her new key worker or room leader, see the room, ask about their routine, meet the staff, etc. Again it might be something they don't usually do but can accommodate.

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