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So im dealing with my husband's grandma trying to over parent and she also feels entitled to see our son. We have told her on countless occasions that technically she has no rights to our kid and that its not her place to guilt trip us into anything. My husband and I are moving but its hard for us to pack when she keeps picking fights. Im also 24 weeks pregnant with my second child, my first is only 7 months old. What should I do because me and my husband are to the point of telling her she won't see him after we move? Just telling her I was laying him down for a nap and not handing him to her made her cry.

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Something balanced and supportive: “This sounds exhausting and unfair, especially while pregnant and packing. You’re right— you and your husband are the parents, and her feelings don’t override your family’s needs. Have your husband lead a calm boundary conversation soon, with clear rules and consequences. In the short term, minimize contact to protect your energy and the move. Legally, she has no automatic rights, but a quick lawyer chat could confirm for your states. Long-term, decide based on whether she can respect you as parents. It’s okay to go low-contact if it keeps coming to fights—your kids need calm, not drama. Prioritize you two as a team; this is temporary stress, but strong boundaries now set the tone for years ahead. You’ve got this—reach out if you need to vent more.”
Encourage professional support: A therapist experienced in family dynamics or perinatal mental health could help navigate guilt, communication, and decisions.

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Sorry, no advice but why are in laws like this!! So infuriating

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For the stay at home mums who are responsible for their kiddos for the whole day, how do you do it? What are some tips for maintaining your energy and sanity while looking after your kids the whole day, day after day?

For reference I have a 10 month old and a 2 year old and my husband works 12 hour days. I’ve had help from family so far but now I’ll mostly be by myself.

How do you limit or avoid physical and mental exhaustion?

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How would you respond

So im dealing with my husband's grandma trying to over parent and she also feels entitled to see our son. We have told her on countless occasions that technically she has no rights to our kid and that its not her place to guilt trip us into anything. My husband and I are moving but its hard for us to pack when she keeps picking fights. Im also 24 weeks pregnant with my second child, my first is only 7 months old. What should I do because me and my husband are to the point of telling her she won't see him after we move? Just telling her I was laying him down for a nap and not handing him to her made her cry.

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Am I being extra?

A little back story I’ve been a stay at home mom for the past 4 years, and this year I have decided to enroll and start school in the fall since my daughter will be in school too. I’ve been very excited about it and told my husband how I really wanted to do something for my self. Well come to find out my acceptance letter came in the mail Wednesday my husband opened it and placed it on the microwave under my kids book. Yesterday when I was cleaning the kitchen I found it. When I confronted him he said he left there thinking I would see it!

To make the story short am I seeing things where they aren’t ?

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Tell me I’m not losing my mind

So my man and I have been fine but recently he’s said we’ve been distant but idk what he means cause yes i work when he’s home and when im off he’s away for work like yeah there’s distances but at the same time when he is home he’s not he’s out with his friends barely home and when he is he just lays there and doesn’t really talk to me and so I decided to dress up for him today and he looks at me and was like why you dressed up I said for you and he was like why wdym cause I wanted to look nice for my man idk I just thought that dressing up would you know idk make it seem like we’re distant like idk what he even means by that and I’ve asked him and he’s like idk well we can’t be something that you don’t even know idk if that made since tbh I haven’t felt the distances so idk maybe I’m just blind or something plus like my body hasn’t been corporating cause I’ve basically been on my period for the past month so when he is home and wants sexy time I’m like no cause I’m bleeding I’m not now and that’s one of the reasons I felt like dressing up because I actually feel good with myself plus a couple of people at work last night looked at me and told me it looks like I’ve lost weight so it has me feeling good about myself. Idk I feel like I’m just in my head and spiraling

The outfit is wearing today.

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Hey! Would anyone mind sharing their experiences on how your nursery is? I can’t work out if what I’m experiencing is normal.

My daughter started early March, and loves everyone there, settled in really quickly, especially as she’s very shy with people usually. Whilst they’re decently on it with updates on nappy changes / meals etc on the app, we get almost no picture updates of her. We’ve had 2 in 2 months.

Not only that, but she’s due to move up to the next room from Monday and we’ve had no communication about it, if there’s any differences etc. We’ve had no reviews with them since she joined to find out how she’s getting on (bar a quick 2 min update at pick up).

I appreciate their most important job is looking after the children rather than taking photos etc. but it just doesn’t feel 100%. Is this normal and I’m just a psycho? 🤣

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Feeling like a bad mom

My baby is only one month and i feel like im already failing. Me and my child father don’t live near each other, (1 hour apart) and i was thinking of being nice and staying a week up there before i go back to work with the baby, well now im regretting it 1000% my baby is super congested 💔🥺 and i feel so bad and i know its my fault I should’ve stayed home his doctors isn’t until next Thursday but im definitely contacting his doctors office to see if i can get a earlier appointment, he’s eating fine i just don’t like to hear my baby like this it hurts my heart, i did the shower steam, and i got a humidifier going, i did noticed drainage but it looks like light yellow I’m not too sure im a first time mom so my anxiety is through the roof! Also im so angry at his dad like how can you sleep so damn peaceful knowing the baby could potentially be sick and it just isn’t newborn congestion. Times like this I feel so alone because as a father idk I feel like he should be showing more concern and this is exactly why I don’t even feel comfortable leaving him with his dad by himself for too long.

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