So im dealing with my husband's grandma trying to over parent and she also feels entitled to see our son. We have told her on countless occasions that technically she has no rights to our kid and that its not her place to guilt trip us into anything. My husband and I are moving but its hard for us to pack when she keeps picking fights. Im also 24 weeks pregnant with my second child, my first is only 7 months old. What should I do because me and my husband are to the point of telling her she won't see him after we move? Just telling her I was laying him down for a nap and not handing him to her made her cry.
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Something balanced and supportive: “This sounds exhausting and unfair, especially while pregnant and packing. You’re right— you and your husband are the parents, and her feelings don’t override your family’s needs. Have your husband lead a calm boundary conversation soon, with clear rules and consequences. In the short term, minimize contact to protect your energy and the move. Legally, she has no automatic rights, but a quick lawyer chat could confirm for your states. Long-term, decide based on whether she can respect you as parents. It’s okay to go low-contact if it keeps coming to fights—your kids need calm, not drama. Prioritize you two as a team; this is temporary stress, but strong boundaries now set the tone for years ahead. You’ve got this—reach out if you need to vent more.”
Encourage professional support: A therapist experienced in family dynamics or perinatal mental health could help navigate guilt, communication, and decisions.

Sorry, no advice but why are in laws like this!! So infuriating