Leave him!!

Am I the only one that gets annoyed when someone complains about their partner and the comments automatically say to leave them? “Divorce him. Leave him. He’ll never change.”
Like damn… do y’all not have faith in people anymore???? Do you not realize our partners are also learning with us?? And don’t even get me started on all the quote images in the replies ..

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This is not in reference to anyone expressing they’re being abused, taken advantage of, etc.
I’m referring to posts where someone is ranting about their partner not answering their phone or not helping as much.
Why is the default advice to LEAVE?!
I rarely see someone suggest to speak to their partner first or couples therapy or anythiiiing except suggesting to split lol

depends .. i rarely tell someone to leave their partner if it’s fixable but if he’s punching you in the face, cheating on you excessively or you already see the way out I just put it out there to reevaluate the situation.. people are going to do what they want at the end of the day..

depends... if the partners being physical, cheating, or something similar, id definitely advise to leave.. nobody deserves to deal with any of that. i dont jump in the leave boat right away. but there are some situations i do say thatd be the better option.

If its something that can be fixed over time with open communication, understanding, and respect then stay and try to fix it. If its cheating, abuse of any form, or neglect & disrespect of the children/you as their partner, then a lot of times it doesn't change and you need to evaluate your options for you and your children to safely leave.

It’s that persons standards, if you put out a question and I am answering it. I am giving you my opinion based on my standard, my boundaries . If you don’t want to hear it why put it out in the open?

I don’t know what post your seeing but most of the posts I see are women complaining about things that have gone on for years and they’ve tried to better it but nothing works and their ranting to us about it because they just can’t do it anymore.

It’s ridiculously hard to leave and can in some cases be dangerous. It’s way more complicated then “just leave him”
I don’t like those comments either

I read something the other day where someone asked how would you take this comment which could be taken lots of different ways and someone said leave them without knowing anything else about the relationship. Obviously sometimes people post and they know they need to leave them but sometimes I think it helps to hear someone else say it. Agree it’s not easy to leave someone especially when kids are involved.

That happened with me when I posted for the first time ranting about my husband. It was a small issue like an argument and he ignored me etc. and all of the comments were like v he’s a 🚩! leave him!! obviously I can’t leave him just because of an argument. honestly i don’t advice anyone on leaving their partners but only in extreme cases.

Yes it’s annoying and also what’s more worrying is someone explaining something and then people saying “oh that’s abuse”

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Kissing my baby

Am i being dramatic?

My mother is obsessed with my 11 week old boy, understandably as he is the first grandchild.
She does however get regular coldsores, so i have asked her nicely not to kiss my baby’s face or hands (as he puts them in his mouth).

She keeps ignoring me, my brother calls her out and tells her not to when i have my back turned and it drives me crazy. When i call her out, she reacts by telling me i don’t clean my hands enough when handling my baby anyway.

How do i get through to her, it’s driving me crazy that she doesn’t respect my boundaries and it ends in an explosive argument where she tells me not to bother visiting. As if I don’t want to see the rest of my family.

Am i being dramatic, is it still a risk at almost 3 months old?

Am I just being overly sensitive?

So my partner (25) and I (20) have 2 kids together. I'm a SAHM. He works really hard for our family & I really appreciate it so much.
But when he gets home he has a bath, then sits outside and smokes while playing Call of Duty until it's the kids bedtime(+/- 2hrs). I almost never spend time with him. And the weekends it's the same except some days he will be out visiting or up and down doing favors for other people.
I have asked him multiple times to go on a date or even just spend an hour together, but it never happens because he always forgets.
Then when we have gone out it's always too boring for him and we end up spending the 'date' with some of his friends, the kids or his sister like Valentines this year...
I feel really neglected and I get so angry with him, but he really shows up dispute this... am I being too dramatic?

Does any of your partner tell you to call places?

I have phone phobia(seriously) I hate when my phone rings so I always put it on silent and dnd mode. The only person I let it ring is my husband and kiddos school contacts.
Anyways, so my husband always tells me to call the place when we need to order food or get something fixed. Like I get anxiety attacks as soon as he says “can you call…” like why is he doing this?!

Yesterday we were on the phone while he was driving home and he told me to call the sushi place so he can just pick it up otw and I didn’t answer then after few mins he said did you call them already?? And I’m like in my head, I’m on the phone with you how can I call?????? And I didn’t answer him because I got annoyed and he yelled babe!!!! And I just hung up and made the order. I mean it’s my fault for ignoring him but like I got annoyed.

Today he’s at hair salon(in the plaza) and our son usually goes first then him, he texts me saying order chicken to go so he can pick it up as soon as they’re done with haircuts. I was like wtf?! The chicken place is literally next door WHY CANT YOU GO AND ORDERRRRRR ughh pissing me off. So I said I don’t want but if you want order. Then he goes no I’m good. Omfgggggg

Why do some women think being a SAHM is bad ?

Recently I lost a friend on here because she would criticize me about being a SAHM and I get it yk. I do eventually want to find work and be able to have my own money and things like that, but I am only 22 and she was 26 and already had a house and car already- felt like we were in different situations. We basically fell out because she would cross boundaries and was eventually getting more judgmental and mean about her opinion. Because at first, I didn’t mind her having her own opinion but she started getting disrespectful eventually. So please ladies tell me what you all think?

TV vs 90s/00s TV

i’m so passionate about this subject i hate that tv isn’t how it used to be and i hate the changes that are happening
I think it’s such a shame that TV then used to be real TV real props/scenes rather than animated or cgi stuff,
it used to be calm slow paced and we were offered less of it because there was no such thing as streaming services back then
and now you’ve got Netflix Disney YouTube BBC iPlayer and you get given anything you want to watch, whenever, for however long u want, i just think it’s so sad because now my children they do watch this kind of stuff that’s fast paced and bright colours and music playing in the background and loads of things going on in one scene it’s just overstimulating there are not many shows that aren’t overstimulating and it’s so hard to avoid them even so

Does anyone feel this way?

My entire life I knew I only wanted one thing and that was to be a mom. But now that I’ve been a mom for 9 months old, I’m starting to think maybe that’s not what I was made for. I feel like I’m struggling. Everyone around me seems to have it so much easier with their babies, but for me, I’ve struggled since day one. I love my baby to death and wouldn’t trade him for anything in this world, but he’s such a high maintenance baby. We’ve always had trouble with feeding, sleeping, etc. I see other moms go out with their newborn and I just wish that could’ve been me. But instead I was just worried that my baby wouldn’t eat or sleep, or would just cry the entire time and I wouldn’t know how to soothe him. Now he’s 9 months old, we’ve gotten out a little bit more but it’s still rough, and I feel like I just struggle more than I should. Like maybe I just wasn’t meant to be a mom. I feel like motherhood in these first 9 months hasn’t been enjoyable like it should have been.