Leave him!!

This is not in reference to anyone expressing they’re being abused, taken advantage of, etc.
I’m referring to posts where someone is ranting about their partner not answering their phone or not helping as much.
Why is the default advice to LEAVE?!
I rarely see someone suggest to speak to their partner first or couples therapy or anythiiiing except suggesting to split lol

depends .. i rarely tell someone to leave their partner if it’s fixable but if he’s punching you in the face, cheating on you excessively or you already see the way out I just put it out there to reevaluate the situation.. people are going to do what they want at the end of the day..

depends... if the partners being physical, cheating, or something similar, id definitely advise to leave.. nobody deserves to deal with any of that. i dont jump in the leave boat right away. but there are some situations i do say thatd be the better option.

If its something that can be fixed over time with open communication, understanding, and respect then stay and try to fix it. If its cheating, abuse of any form, or neglect & disrespect of the children/you as their partner, then a lot of times it doesn't change and you need to evaluate your options for you and your children to safely leave.

It’s that persons standards, if you put out a question and I am answering it. I am giving you my opinion based on my standard, my boundaries . If you don’t want to hear it why put it out in the open?

I don’t know what post your seeing but most of the posts I see are women complaining about things that have gone on for years and they’ve tried to better it but nothing works and their ranting to us about it because they just can’t do it anymore.

It’s ridiculously hard to leave and can in some cases be dangerous. It’s way more complicated then “just leave him”
I don’t like those comments either

I read something the other day where someone asked how would you take this comment which could be taken lots of different ways and someone said leave them without knowing anything else about the relationship. Obviously sometimes people post and they know they need to leave them but sometimes I think it helps to hear someone else say it. Agree it’s not easy to leave someone especially when kids are involved.

That happened with me when I posted for the first time ranting about my husband. It was a small issue like an argument and he ignored me etc. and all of the comments were like v he’s a 🚩! leave him!! obviously I can’t leave him just because of an argument. honestly i don’t advice anyone on leaving their partners but only in extreme cases.

Yes it’s annoying and also what’s more worrying is someone explaining something and then people saying “oh that’s abuse”

I mean if it's a first occurrence, one time thing then yeah, immediately jumping to "leave him" is a bit dramatic. But a lot of the time it comes with a history of disrespect and shitty behaviour. I don't think you should jump ship at the first issue (though I would never judge anyone who did) but I also fully believe that life is too short to stay in a relationship you're unhappy in 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes. And when people throw in trendy words to describe their "abusive" relationship with the tiny bit of context they got from the OP post which is always clearly written during a moment of overwhelm.

I do it myself as someone who's struggled with my partner and had people call him an abuser and yet he's an incredible person with a growth mindset which I'm very fortunate to be growing aside

I’ve been told to leave my husband more times than I can count

He didn’t help in the newborn stage. Honestly he didn’t start “helping” with our child til our child was in the toddler stage

And now? He’s trying. He’s putting the effort in and I’m having time for myself, going to the gym, naps when I need them, etc

As hard as it was feeling like a single parent, we’re definitely a team now. Parenting is hard regardless of you have one child or multiples.

My husband struggled with anxiety and depression when our child was born and even now I still feel like he has depression and is a bit resentful but that’s something we’re working through

The problem too is that the truth always lies somewhere in the middle so we don’t know the whole story. People seek out the advice they want from whom they believe will give it to them. A lot of times I believe when women come to forums like this, they are looking for others to tell them or justify to them leaving. If she was looking to save her marriage then she most likely would not come to a forum like this for advice. But that’s just my opinion.

It depends on the situation and issues. It's not black and white.

Honestly most of the women complaining here should leave their partner because there's lots of cases of abuse. Also the standards are so low that lots of women accept totally unacceptable behaviors. Not every women should leave but lots of them should (yes I am aware of how hard it is to leave abusive relationships, I am a survivor of it and I know it can be done)

No one truly knows what goes on between closed doors. Someone could be frustrated and needing to vent and tbh the last thing they wanna hear is “just leave” they either want some actual advice or to literally just vent and that’s it.