Why do some women think being a SAHM is bad ?

Recently I lost a friend on here because she would criticize me about being a SAHM and I get it yk. I do eventually want to find work and be able to have my own money and things like that, but I am only 22 and she was 26 and already had a house and car already- felt like we were in different situations. We basically fell out because she would cross boundaries and was eventually getting more judgmental and mean about her opinion. Because at first, I didn’t mind her having her own opinion but she started getting disrespectful eventually. So please ladies tell me what you all think?

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girl don’t feel bad .. I was judged for hiring a maid/cleaner for my home

I get judged saying im too dependent on my husband because I am a stay at home mom. I want to work but I can hardly handle a part time job because of my pain and we cant afford to put the kids into daycare.

You’re pretty young to not have some kind of career to fall back on. Im not judging you, I think it’s a privilege to be a stay at home mom and ideally I’d like to be one too however if something did go side ways what do you have to fall back on?

I think it’s more of an insecurity thing if I’m being honest… I mean I’ve been on both sides. Hustling and being at home and nothing is wrong with either one. I think you guys just crossed paths at different times in your lives and some things just don’t make sense to people until later. Also some people are extremely opinionated unfortunately and they’ll always be like that. Don’t feel bad you’ll find your tribe!

I’m still pregnant and have already gotten comments from friends and family even… I think this feeling is usually based off of their opinion of their own partner, rather than their opinion of being a SAHM. Subconsciously they don’t view that as something their relationship could succeed in, and that’s totally okay! It’s not for everyone! But I think that’s where the judgement comes from, more than actually not feeling like it’s a good thing for some families. They can’t see it for themselves, so they choose not to understand it for others.

This will probably get hate but in MYYYYY experience, ppl who hate on SAHM come from a place of jealousy and insecurity. Jealous that they have to work and can’t stay home. Insecure for thinking theres a possibility their partner will leave them and they’ll be put in a place of needing an out.

I think its partially from jealousy and partially from lack of understanding. To be a sahm by choice and be successful at it with a partner and genuinely happy with a solid plan for emergencies (death, injury, failed relationship) i think is an ideal situation for most moms. But her disrespect is a reflection and of her lack of ability to communicate appropriately and accept others opinons.
And you are young so kudos to you for being married and starting your family. Please watch tons of sahm videos both positive and negative so u can cover your bases!

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