Kissing my baby

Am i being dramatic?

My mother is obsessed with my 11 week old boy, understandably as he is the first grandchild.
She does however get regular coldsores, so i have asked her nicely not to kiss my baby’s face or hands (as he puts them in his mouth).

She keeps ignoring me, my brother calls her out and tells her not to when i have my back turned and it drives me crazy. When i call her out, she reacts by telling me i don’t clean my hands enough when handling my baby anyway.

How do i get through to her, it’s driving me crazy that she doesn’t respect my boundaries and it ends in an explosive argument where she tells me not to bother visiting. As if I don’t want to see the rest of my family.

Am i being dramatic, is it still a risk at almost 3 months old?

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IT IS ALWAYS A RISK YOU ARE NOT OVERREACTING AND IT WHAT WAS MY BABY ID BE IN FUCKING JAIL!!!!! STOP LETTING HER KISS YOUR BABY HE HAS NO IMMUNE SYSTEM SHE CAN KILL HIM!!!! KILL!!! AS IN DEAD!!!!! STOP THAT SHIT RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't kiss my child. My son is 15m old and I don't like people kissing him.
If you're uncomfortable with it speak up. Explain if boundaries are going to be ignored she will lose access

We have the same rule and I think it is reasonable even at 3 months old. We are enforcing until our baby has most of her vaccines done. You cant control how your mom responds to your boundary, only how you enforce it. What works for me is not engaging in the arguments and saying it is not up for debate or opinions. We've enforced by removing baby or giving the option of wearing a mask if they cant help themselves while handling the baby

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Absolutely not overreacting!

You are not overreacting at all. I'd go absolutely mental. If she didn't respect my boundaries and my rules with my child she wouldn't be seeing him, simple as that. Someone kissed my great niece as a baby, she nearly died because of it. My son is 7 months and I still won't let anyone other than me and my husband kiss him

Don't let her have the baby honestly. If she is so selfish she could put your baby's life at risk, I wouldn't want her around.

You are not being dramatic at all. You just need to explain it to her properly that she could endanger your child’s life and pass on the infection to him, even if she thinks it’s harmless. She likely thinks you’re being too fussy and over reacting. She probably thinks that it’s okay for her to kiss the child out of overwhelming emotion :/ which is definitely not okay.

Yeah so I’d never visit if anyone wants a relationship with my child and I, u can follow the boundaries or you’ll never see me again 😃it’s hard to put your foot down but you need to have courage and resilience, you can do it! You’ve made it this far, now it’s time to push yourself to get the respect you deserve ❤️

You say this is my last time telling you, if you do it again you won’t see your grandchild anymore. If she does it again immediately kick her out or go home if at her place.

Cold sores are no joke, RSV is no joke, and I could keep going, but you already understand this.

My son got RSV so this time round im extremely strict about it - due in May and ive already sent a list of rules 😂 and discussed specifically with those i knew broked them last time (my mum was also bad for kissing him). She tried to say I was over reacting and I explained that things have changed since their generation and there is alot of evidence to suggest its bad for baby so its that or dont see him 🤷‍♀️

Not dramatic at all!! I would be LIVID and explaining the risks quite bluntly by this point!! Also the comment on u and ur hand washing around your baby wouldve sent me over the edge!!

She literally carries the Herpes virus that can kill him.

The pure ignorance from that generation drives me insane!!!! Our parents are the same!

Definitely not being dramatic! Cold sores are deadly to babies. I suffer from them & when my baby was born I didn't kiss her for the first 2 weeks of her life as I had them and I was so careful

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