Kissing my baby

Am i being dramatic?

My mother is obsessed with my 11 week old boy, understandably as he is the first grandchild.
She does however get regular coldsores, so i have asked her nicely not to kiss my baby’s face or hands (as he puts them in his mouth).

She keeps ignoring me, my brother calls her out and tells her not to when i have my back turned and it drives me crazy. When i call her out, she reacts by telling me i don’t clean my hands enough when handling my baby anyway.

How do i get through to her, it’s driving me crazy that she doesn’t respect my boundaries and it ends in an explosive argument where she tells me not to bother visiting. As if I don’t want to see the rest of my family.

Am i being dramatic, is it still a risk at almost 3 months old?

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IT IS ALWAYS A RISK YOU ARE NOT OVERREACTING AND IT WHAT WAS MY BABY ID BE IN FUCKING JAIL!!!!! STOP LETTING HER KISS YOUR BABY HE HAS NO IMMUNE SYSTEM SHE CAN KILL HIM!!!! KILL!!! AS IN DEAD!!!!! STOP THAT SHIT RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't kiss my child. My son is 15m old and I don't like people kissing him.
If you're uncomfortable with it speak up. Explain if boundaries are going to be ignored she will lose access

We have the same rule and I think it is reasonable even at 3 months old. We are enforcing until our baby has most of her vaccines done. You cant control how your mom responds to your boundary, only how you enforce it. What works for me is not engaging in the arguments and saying it is not up for debate or opinions. We've enforced by removing baby or giving the option of wearing a mask if they cant help themselves while handling the baby

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Absolutely not overreacting!

You are not overreacting at all. I'd go absolutely mental. If she didn't respect my boundaries and my rules with my child she wouldn't be seeing him, simple as that. Someone kissed my great niece as a baby, she nearly died because of it. My son is 7 months and I still won't let anyone other than me and my husband kiss him

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So im dealing with my husband's grandma trying to over parent and she also feels entitled to see our son. We have told her on countless occasions that technically she has no rights to our kid and that its not her place to guilt trip us into anything. My husband and I are moving but its hard for us to pack when she keeps picking fights. Im also 24 weeks pregnant with my second child, my first is only 7 months old. What should I do because me and my husband are to the point of telling her she won't see him after we move? Just telling her I was laying him down for a nap and not handing him to her made her cry.

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So my man and I have been fine but recently he’s said we’ve been distant but idk what he means cause yes i work when he’s home and when im off he’s away for work like yeah there’s distances but at the same time when he is home he’s not he’s out with his friends barely home and when he is he just lays there and doesn’t really talk to me and so I decided to dress up for him today and he looks at me and was like why you dressed up I said for you and he was like why wdym cause I wanted to look nice for my man idk I just thought that dressing up would you know idk make it seem like we’re distant like idk what he even means by that and I’ve asked him and he’s like idk well we can’t be something that you don’t even know idk if that made since tbh I haven’t felt the distances so idk maybe I’m just blind or something plus like my body hasn’t been corporating cause I’ve basically been on my period for the past month so when he is home and wants sexy time I’m like no cause I’m bleeding I’m not now and that’s one of the reasons I felt like dressing up because I actually feel good with myself plus a couple of people at work last night looked at me and told me it looks like I’ve lost weight so it has me feeling good about myself. Idk I feel like I’m just in my head and spiraling

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For the stay at home mums who are responsible for their kiddos for the whole day, how do you do it? What are some tips for maintaining your energy and sanity while looking after your kids the whole day, day after day?

For reference I have a 10 month old and a 2 year old and my husband works 12 hour days. I’ve had help from family so far but now I’ll mostly be by myself.

How do you limit or avoid physical and mental exhaustion?

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I mean besides a quick trip to the park or store. An activity like the museum or the mall or an arcade. I’m so tired. I’m a single mom w NO village and my energy Sat & Sunday is so low I just want to lay. My son goes to a Montessori daycare so he’s stimulated all day during the week. So on the weekends he’s ready to go go go. I’ll try to get us outside But then the tantrum aspect of toddlerhood kicks in and he fights me to get dressed and out the door. We get where we’re going but eventually there’s and other tantrum. It’s so much work. But in the house he’s bored. He’s throwing stuff at me and acting out. It’s like I can’t win

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A little back story I’ve been a stay at home mom for the past 4 years, and this year I have decided to enroll and start school in the fall since my daughter will be in school too. I’ve been very excited about it and told my husband how I really wanted to do something for my self. Well come to find out my acceptance letter came in the mail Wednesday my husband opened it and placed it on the microwave under my kids book. Yesterday when I was cleaning the kitchen I found it. When I confronted him he said he left there thinking I would see it!

To make the story short am I seeing things where they aren’t ?

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