Does any of your partner tell you to call places?

I have phone phobia(seriously) I hate when my phone rings so I always put it on silent and dnd mode. The only person I let it ring is my husband and kiddos school contacts.
Anyways, so my husband always tells me to call the place when we need to order food or get something fixed. Like I get anxiety attacks as soon as he says “can you call…” like why is he doing this?!

Yesterday we were on the phone while he was driving home and he told me to call the sushi place so he can just pick it up otw and I didn’t answer then after few mins he said did you call them already?? And I’m like in my head, I’m on the phone with you how can I call?????? And I didn’t answer him because I got annoyed and he yelled babe!!!! And I just hung up and made the order. I mean it’s my fault for ignoring him but like I got annoyed.

Today he’s at hair salon(in the plaza) and our son usually goes first then him, he texts me saying order chicken to go so he can pick it up as soon as they’re done with haircuts. I was like wtf?! The chicken place is literally next door WHY CANT YOU GO AND ORDERRRRRR ughh pissing me off. So I said I don’t want but if you want order. Then he goes no I’m good. Omfgggggg

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Maybe he's encouraging you to be phoning people and sorting things for yourself to help you in the long run

Is he trying to encourage you out of it or something?

I always call lol idk why my husband doesn’t but I never minded it honestly. I used to call for my dad too whenever we ordered take out as a kid lol

People who don't have these anxieties usually don't understand how it feels for us. To them it's not a big deal but for us it's the end of the world I used to have the same fear, I took up a temp job in a call centre to overcome the fear.
I now try expose myself to anxieties because if I don't, today I'm fearful of one thing, tomorrow it's something else and then I end up an anxious wreck.

He may be trying to push you out of your comfort zone without realising the true extent of your anxiety around this.

My husband hates calling places and always gets me to do it. I don't mind, the outcome is usually better when I call anyway

I used to have panic attacks over making phone calls til I got a job making phone calls and now they are much easier for me. It’s possible he’s just an asshole but maybe instead he is trying to help you move past it

To be honest he’s not trying to help lol I told him already few times about my phone phobia but he always forgets. And every time I tell him stop telling me to call places that I don’t like to talk on the phone he don’t take it seriously he said yea right, there’s no such thing as phone phobia. If I know that he’s trying to help me I wouldn’t make this post. Everything he doesn’t understand is bs to him.

I would need to practice the lines and fix which phrases would be better few times and calm my heart beats before I actually make a call.

Awww I'm so sorry OP! I am finding myself in the same boat after 5 years of SAHM-ing. I feel this one so I was really hoping it was him being kind. 😕 because that's definitely shittier for you. I would try to find an outside source that could discuss it with him if he's not listening to you. A therapist maybe? A family member he respects? Otherwise, it's time to make some tough decisions on how to move forward. That's just not fair to you at all.

I completely understand being anxious after having children. Before my baby I was going on solo holidays after having her I couldn't even leave home without feeling panic. I'm a bit better now and still working on things through graded exposure but a lot of the time I'm still relying on my partner to come places with him, even to get my nails done !

I really had to have a heart to heart with him to get to this point because he just didn't understand how big this was in my head until I fully explained it.

my husband same way and annoys me so much

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Does any of your partner tell you to call places?

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So my partner (25) and I (20) have 2 kids together. I'm a SAHM. He works really hard for our family & I really appreciate it so much.
But when he gets home he has a bath, then sits outside and smokes while playing Call of Duty until it's the kids bedtime(+/- 2hrs). I almost never spend time with him. And the weekends it's the same except some days he will be out visiting or up and down doing favors for other people.
I have asked him multiple times to go on a date or even just spend an hour together, but it never happens because he always forgets.
Then when we have gone out it's always too boring for him and we end up spending the 'date' with some of his friends, the kids or his sister like Valentines this year...
I feel really neglected and I get so angry with him, but he really shows up dispute this... am I being too dramatic?

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