Would you choose childminder or nursery for a one year old? Which is safer/better for the child?

Planning ahead for when I have to go back to work. It will be 3 days a week.

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We started with a cm but ended up with a nursery. Our first cm became pregnant and then our second also became pregnant. We were also at the point where my son was delayed speech wise and wanted more social interaction. I hated having to work our holidays when the cm had off. Also it felt less pressure on me to do groups when my son was at nursery. From a safety point of view nursery as my son was a runner as the cm found out taking him to the park.

Our eldest went to a nursery, and I think it was brilliant for him. Our youngest was supposed to also go to nursery but they let us down last minute so we had a bit of a scrabble to find childcare, and I ended up finding a childminder who could take them both. I actually think for my youngest a childminder was the better option, she was a lot clingier than my eldest and I think the smaller “home from home” setting suited her much more than a nursery would have, so it worked out for the best.

There are pros and cons to both, so I think it’s about looking at the options and deciding which is a better fit for the child to be honest ☺️

I think it depends on child. My 1 year old is pretty advanced and i would want whomever is structured, planned, and will help her learn.

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What's the etiquette?

My brother and his girlfriend are going to look after my little girl (20 months) for a few hours so my husband and I can go out for lunch - we never get time to ourselves. This is the first time they've looked after her and it would be nice if they could do it every now and then. They love spending time with her but I want to thank them, I just don't know exactly how. What do you do when family look after your child/children?

Mycarrypotty - essential or overrated?

As the title says, really. Starting to prepare myself for potty training LO and wondering if mycarrypotty is really as brilliant as the ads make out or if I would be spending £25-30 on a gimmick?

I'm honestly feeling pretty overwhelmed with it at the moment, so any tips or recommended reading also welcome

I AM RAGING

My partner works 12 hours while I’m home with the baby and toddler, I’m always cleaning the house looking after the kids and forever overstimulated when he’s at work. When he’s off I’ve asked him today to help me clean the house; he’s taken the piss coming home and I’ve nearly cleaned everything on my own. I’m standing in the kitchen doing the dishes and he has the nerve while he’s taking the washed clothes out the machine to tell me they ain’t even washed properly. I’ve crashed out and said I’ve had enough it’s the fact I’ve cleaned the whole house while you fucked off and took your time getting in the house and now have one job to do and the audacity and never to tell me they ain’t even washed properly. He then says shit like what do you even do? Are you tucking serious right now. I’ve birthed two FUCKING kids I deal with a newborn who’s a few weeks old and a toddler in the terrible twos. Cook clean. What the fuck does he do apart from talk shit and question what I do while he’s at work like he genuinely believes I sit on my fucking ass doing nothing I am FUMING. If I don’t do the cleaning or cooking nothing is fucking done I’m fucking tired of his bullshit

My 4.5 year old hates using public bathrooms

Instead she will hold her wee in all day which im worried will affect her long-term.
Ive had times sitting in a public bathroom for a good 20 minutes until she wees!
I saw yesterday while at a park a mum take her children (looked about 5 and 6) to the car where she got a potty for them to use.
Do others do this?
I hadn't thought about it before as thought its going backwards but my daughter still uses the potty sometimes at home aswell as our toilet!

Lunch ideas

Lunch ideas please. Struggle with these the most as my boy doesn’t like bread or sandwiches. He loves boiled eggs so he tends to have that with fruit etc but don’t want him getting bored of that