Husband and baby

Hi everyone, I’m not really sure how to word this so please be kind I’m not moaning at all, just looking for a bit of advice or to see if anyone has had a similar experience 🤍

My husband is incredibly loving and doting with our baby (2 weeks old, very much wanted).

We’re pretty much 50/50 with care. he does nights on his side getting up for feeds/changes while I pump, we do baths together, and he’s been amazing with baby and around the house especially while I’m still healing. I don’t ask him to do anything he just does it

The thing we’re struggling with a bit is that he’s quite sensitive to noise/sensory things, and the crying really affects him. It seems to cause him a lot of anxiety and he can get quite overwhelmed and upset.he’s finding it hard to relax and enjoy baby unless she’s asleep because he’s constantly on edge waiting for baby to cry.

I think he’s feeling like he’s not coping very well or doing a good job I think he’s worried about how he’s doing and needs to just put on a brave face and suck it up?

Our baby is at that stage where they grunt a lot, makes loads of noises, and sometimes cries even when all needs are met which I know is completely normal. I feel like I’m coping well with that side of things, but he’s finding it much harder and has said it’s more overwhelming and harder than he expected. I can tell it’s getting him down a bit, even though he’s still so gentle and caring with baby and me

I just wondered if anyone else has experienced something similar with their partner? Did it get easier with time, or did anything help them cope better?

I really want to support him in the best way I can

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