Am I making a mistake?

A few years ago my partner hit me. He suffers from PTSD and has since had therapy and we got back together etc.

Since, I haven't been able to relax enough to 'enjoy' sex. I haven't climaxed with him for 3 years. I sunk into a depression and we separated for a bit but at the moment we are together again but living apart. We have discussed these problems I'm having and he's tried to 'help' but I just can't 'get there'.

Generally, he's now almost perfect but our sex life is literally me being used for a few minutes, he rolls over and goes to bed. He gets cross / offended if I bring it up or if looks like I'm not enjoying it as he's tried his best....

Is this what it's meant or be like after so many years together? Am I asking too much? Or are we done?

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What about reading the books come as you are and come together, as a unit? He sounds selfish and like he needs a reset on what your needs are. How is your communication outside of this?

Is he willing to work on it? Like is he willing to take charge of his lack of effective communication and work on it independently of your guidance? Me and my husband suck at communication. We have both independently had to realize our own part in the breakdown of communication. My husband read a few books and actively works on it. Im in therapy currently for my own part. But we both have wanted to keep the relationship. We've come close to divorce 6-7 years ago and had to realize that maybe its not working. But if they arent willing to actually listen to understand vs listening to responding....is it worth staying? Maybe its more: whats your last ditch effort? Mine was couples counselling that he found and booked the appointment for, but we both had to agree on the therapist ultimately.

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silly question for trans people...

I'm a bit ignorant about this, and sorry in advance. I just want to know more so I don't fuck up.
I have a coworker who's a trans man (born girl, just to clarify) and I really like him and want to be his friend, but as I said, I don't know a lot of stuff and I don't want to make him uncomfortable or anything.
My question is: Is it rude to point out that I never thought they were trans? Like, he looks like a cis man. I thought this and almost said it, but then wondered if it would make him uncomfortable?
Please share you're experiences, or advice, or anything at all about this topic. EXCEPT HATE, NO ONE CARES THE UGLY THINGS YOU THINK, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, thank you! :)

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