Holiday tips NEEDED!

I am going to Spain in June with my (will be) 12mo and 4yo. I haven’t been abroad in ages and never with the babies so I’m looking for some useful tips and tricks people have picked up that will make life a little easier.

We are in a hotel room at an all inclusive family friendly hotel. The 12mo is still really reliant on formula and doesn’t sleep well on the go.

Any tips are greatly appreciated

in our community

Still in the NICU

My baby was born on April 14th at 33w3d. He's been doing so well this whole time and is on his last step before discharge. I've been staying with him, it's cheaper, I don't work, I don't have my own personal vehicle, so my husband comes and goes outside of work. My mom comes and visits when she can. I spent last night back at home for the first day. I definitely was not ready before but all of this in and out with the nurses. The beeps. The monitors. I'm burnt out. I've been in this hospital for 16 days now including my stay. I'm just on edge. I feel like the whole hormone drop has arrived. My healing has been great, I've dealt with prior poor mental health and truly this baby has helped me so much to find purpose and stay on track, be calm and collected.

Him being alive and well made me happy enough before but I guess being in this hospital has just gotten to me. I'm fighting tears too often. I'm wondering what's best for me, to stay by his side or give myself more breaks. I know he is ok staying here. And regardless of anything I will still be here everyday. I have nowhere else I need to be. I truly wish someone could just tell me what to do. What would be best.

I think I'm gonna start sleeping at home and coming to make sure I catch most of his day feeds as that is the last step for him before discharge. Genuinely. If you've been in my shoes. Tell me it gets better.

I've been so encouraged to watch him get better each day and sometimes what the nurses say just makes me feel defeated. I know he's learning, I know he needs time but he's still progressing. Why not uplift us instead of trying to over explain how hard it is for him or telling me what he'll be able to do even after he leaves. Just let him grow ☹️

It's so hard for me to take a step back though because of all the small things. The nurses forget to swaddle him properly, or burp him so he'll sit in spit up for simply too long. This morning while I was home, I check the camera and the plug for his feeding tube was hanging outside of his crib so he basically was pulling it off of his face just by turning his head 🤦🏽‍♀️ I just wanna be his mama at home!!!!

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Is my partner being unreasonable?

Bit of a long post but I’m a 24 year old mam to a 2 year old and 9 month old baby. Me and my partner get on really well and he’s a brilliant father however he has issues with me going out without him. For context I rarely ever go out and have probably been out with friends or family around 3 times since having my first born almost 3 years ago. I’ve never given him a reason not to trust me but he makes me feel so bad about going anywhere that I just feel like not going. It’s my birthday in 3 weeks and my mam has organised for us to go out for a few drinks with my sister and two aunties the weekend before. When mentioned to my partner he was really funny about the situation and said that he doesn’t agree with me going out as we should be spending time as a family instead. My friends birthday is 3 weeks after and have mentioned going out and again this caused a big argument between us as he said he doesn’t want to be with someone who constantly goes out etc… I never ever go out it just happens that the two occasions are in the same month. I feel on egg shells whenever someone asks me to go out for a drink and I don’t want to lose my friends either. I literally live for my family but it’s nice to let my hair down and enjoy time with friends and family. He says that we never go out together which is true but this is because I have no one to watch my children as my mam is ill and I simply feel uncomfortable leaving them with his mother and father as they don’t see them often enough (this is another argument we have often). He then says after an argument “just go if you want to” after making me feel so bad in the first place. Am I being unfair by wanting to go out? I just rather keep the peace and like I said I love him so much as a person I couldn’t ask for a better father but this is a issue that comes up often in our relationship and I’m not sure it can be fixed as we quite clearly have different opinions.

Nursery

Anyone sent their LO to nursery at the age of one and wondering if they are doing the right thing? My LG has been so clingy but also throwing tantrums since starting. She turned one at the beginning of April. I’m just riddled with mum guilt and instead of using the time for me, I just cry when she’s not with me. Crying as I write this 😂 just feel like she’s not ready. Or I’m not and I don’t know which it is but I hate leaving her.

Discipline

Hey guys! I have some questions. My oldest is 13 also I have 2 younger ones. My oldest has a different dad. My younger 2 have the same father. We have been together 4 years now and he even proposed. I have let him step in a be the father figure I thought my son needed but we clash when it comes to the discipline though. He feels like Im not tough enough on him when he does things or gets in trouble. I was raised getting like one butt whooping and he was raised getting them. I feel like he can be too rough and that will cause issues down the line with their relationship. His mother and stepmother have both told him the same thing regarding that. My oldest got in trouble and suspended last week. His stepmother told him to let me handle it while they were talking about the situation one on one over the phone I was told. Im trying to get him to understand that at end of the day that is my son and I'm not trying to be disrespectful or anything.I feel I should definitely have a say in how he disciplines him. He keeps arguing back that I don't know how to raise a boy an idk what a boy needs etc. I feel like if you respect me then you should respect what I say when it comes to my child. Am I wrong?

Baby blues/ PPD

I don’t know why I’m jealous of my fiancé I wanted this baby for so long and I finally got her but some morning I wake up and I’m angry or annoyed he can just get up and go take a ride or run errands I be needing a break but I feel so guilty because I’ve prayed for so long of this beautiful baby….I know how it sounds and I’m sure my fiancé wouldn’t mind keeping her so I can get out the house for a while… but it still makes me feel like I’m missing out….i don’t think I would miss my old self so much…. This labor hasn’t been the easiest healing and I think a lot of that has really taken his toll on me an what I was expecting it’s been hard to see myself going through all of this and physically know I will be okay…today is just hard to see over the rainbow