Marriage

I’ve been married for 4 years now and we’ve been struggling with the same issues. Communication, emotional support, and lacking support overall. I’ve been blessed to have a husband who can financially support us. But when it comes to everything else he’s not there like he should. I feel like I’ve been single and I’m holding up our marriage by the brim. Im not whiling to quit but we have had the same exact fights for 4 years now. It always goes around in a circle. We fight, he comes up with multiple excuses, he gets me a small gift the next day, will fix the issue we were fighting about for a day, then continues doing the same or acting the same from then on out till we fight about it again. Like I feel like I’m raising another kid on top of my 3 and on top of it he’s always complaining about being exhausted from everything he “does” for us. Then asking me to do more for the family like my schedule isn’t already booked. I don’t know where or what to do from here on out.

in our community

My sister in law is giving her 4 month old COWS MILK and SOLIDS

This is her second baby. Her first is 3 years old and I believe she fed solids at 3 months (no comment 🙄) and is now severely iron deficient - not sure if the 2 are connected but it makes sense if they are since he wasn’t having the right amount of milk. He also has immunity, speech delay and overall delayed development - again, could be cuz of that partially, could be otherwise, idk

My point is - she knows full well that giving cows milk isn’t normal and was in such a rush to start solids for god knows what reason.

Opinions? The combination of cow milk and solids at 4 months is very alarming. And btw her baby isn’t advanced (as in don’t show early signs of readiness for food) nor was it advised to start solids so young.

Drawing skills

My son is 3 years 8 months old. He drew and coloured it all by himself even Mercedes logos. I don’t know any other child of his age so wanted to known if he is very good at drawing for his age or it’s just normal. Thank you

Baby/toddler friendly ideas

Ladies, please could you give your simple easy recipes that are quick but are both baby and toddler friendly, like breakfast bars/sweet and savory muffins etc

Needs to be no honey and can be frozen 🙂

Thank you 😘😘

Can’t stand other kids only your own??

I’ve seen a few videos of people saying how they don’t like other kids. And get get so annoyed when other kids are around trying to talk to them and that they only like their own. I get it, kids can be annoying but the amount of people in the comments agreeing and saying things about other kids made me so sad. Obviously we tolerate and love our own kids but to just brush off all other kids is so weird to me and makes me sad for my daughter. A lot of kids who try to get attention from adults are just friendly or don’t get attention at home. Why be so mean about it??

Just roommates

I was hoping that things would get better after a year of postpartum. Giving us a chance to get used to being first-time parents and to a big change in our lives. It just got worse. The emotional and physical distance got worse over time, and it just felt like we were friends. His excuse for not getting physical is that he's afraid that we’ll get pregnant again. Mind you, it took us 10 years to make our first one. We used to cuddle and hold hands all the time. Has anyone gotten out of this funk in their relationship? When did it stop feeling like we are roommates instead of being married couple.

Literally heartbroken

If you take the time to read this, then thank you, so much.

Tonight I have cried my eyes out for over an hour, thinking why do I deserve my children.

As a family we sat down and had a meal, that I had spent 2 hours preparing and cooking - our 7 month old is doing BLW, he was gagging, my husband will continuously interfere by trying to put water in his mouth, I spoke and said it’s best not to do that, it’s a natural thing they need to learn. He disagreed, literally did not want to listen.

I am struggling so badly at the moment with a toddler who turn 2 last month and a 7 month old, a SAHM who has worked all her life. I’m do get cross sometimes as my toddler will push me, my baby will cry whatever I try to do to help him. I have done EVERY night feed and wake up, even after an emergency CS. And tonight, my husband said that I don’t contribute to pay towards anything, I am horrible to my kids, I tell them no, I don’t go to work… i literally do 2 x £100 monthly food shops in a month, look after kids 24/7 with no break, been potty training, buy their clothes, the nappies, the general care and dr appts, the tantrums.

We have our arguments. But tonight hurt me. Like a blunt knife stabbing me over and over again. I feel like I shouldn’t have been given the opportunity to be a mum, especially after 2 miscarriages (with my husband so he knows). I just want to run away. But I love my kids too much. I try my hardest, I really do. I’ve always suffered with mental health, emotions, etc, he knows that. My kids are my life and tonight I looked at them and thought they just deserve so much better than me. 😭😭