Anybody else felt like this in pregnancy, is it normal or am I just being sensitive rn?

Hey y’all anybody else feeling like this?
Im still early in pregnancy but ofc already thinking about gender reveals, baby showers,shopping etc…
Feeling a little sad that I don’t have any friends nearby or to share experiences.
my friends live long distance and majority are in a total different phase of life whereas I’ve wanted this for so long after a long IVF journey and many losses. I’m finding it tough not having anybody to relate to or talk about pregnancy journey or even feeling like I won’t be able to have the celebration most people have! Anybody else ?

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Pregnancy is the perfect time to attend groups and start looking for the local mum friends. Prenatal swimming/yoga/Pilates/pram walking group? Who knows, you may be able to befriend the whole group in a couple months where you can invite them to your baby shower 🙂 Then when baby is born-mothers groups and Baby bounce sessions at the library.

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Definitely not alone! I felt this way too. The worst part was I had a friend who was also pregnant at the time but she lives on the other side of the state from me so we could only text a bit (we are both bad at texting). I would definitely look into joining a local mom group

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I haven't had friends at least since I graduated high school almost 8 years ago. So when my husband and I were trying I had no one to share the news with. We actually didn't even tell family until we were pregnant. Fast forward to now and baby girl is 4 months and I still have no friends. I thought that nobody wanted to be my friend anymore after school because some of them were getting married or having kids and I wasn't ? But even the ones that didn't want to do anything but party weren't even my friends anymore because I didn't party. I thought for sure once some of my "life long friends" seen I was pregnant or had a baby that they would want to start hanging out and talking again but still no. This is the most lonely I've ever felt and its ridiculous. I know all these women that I met in preschool and were friends with for yearss but once I switched schools junior year they all stopped talking to me and it's very hard to make friends junior year. Idk if I'm just a shit person & that's why nobody wants me?

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Did I make a mistake.

I am 37 years old and I have an 18 month old boy and have been with the father of my child for almost 6 years. The relationship has never 100% been respectful as he has cheated multiple times, called me out of my name, etc. I found out he cheated then found out I was pregnant. I wanted to keep my family together and for our son to have an active parent. So I stayed

Pregnancy and postpartum was hard. He wasn’t working a steady job and I had to back to work very quickly to keep our income. Eventually he got a job and we were able to move into our own place. But we have not been intimate since the baby was conceived. Don’t get my wrong I sick him off when he needs it but that’s about it.

I’m the primary parent. Bathtime. Dropping and picking baby up. Packing bag. Making appointments. Soothing. EVERYTHING. he does change diapers sometimes but when I ask for help it’s like pulling teeth.

He gets angry and snaps at me or the baby “am I raising a boy or girl” when the baby is whining or something. Making me feel wrong for having any feelings outside of happiness.

Because of the disrespect and what I feel is emotional abuse. I decided to break up with him. In my head I know it was the right decision. I know I am grieving what could have been. But my heart is still breaking. I don’t know what my life looks like without this person whose been in my life for 6 years. I never wanted to raise a child by myself even though I know its possible. Starting for scratch at this age is daunting. And he already talking about getting a lawyer.

We have to stay in the same house because there’s 2 months on our lease and he says he will continue to provide the rent but he might leave the state. Which I already planned on doing to be closer to family. But I feel like I’ve ruined my family and my son is going to hate me.

Did I make a mistake? I know I didn’t but my heart says otherwise. Thank you for letting me vent.

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I’m just out on my own in this big world and I figured it was smart

Now I’m an old lady and a mommy and I feel like women don’t talk to me cuz my style. Look

I’m a goody two shoes. I ain’t never done nothing wrong I always been the scardy cat so most my look is goose rather than duck. I just like my look looking finished I have a disfigured face and so I wear big head to complete the look. I don’t have fancy clothes I have 5 outfits and I was them every time I wear them. I used to have more clothes but I moved and they got rained on.

Anyways would anyone like to be my friend?

IM Really easy to be friends with.

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